>>8738057
I didn't know that word, candaulism. Interesting, it's like that beginning phase of the NTS exhitionism part, where you get off on the idea of your wife being sexy in public and feeling other men sexually desire her.

I've been thinking a lot about NTS and I have such conflicting feelings about it. The way I see it, the main drive for me is a desire for validation (from both parties but mainly the guy). He's insecure and wants his wife to prove to him that he's the only man for her, that her love for him is unshakeable. And somehow that is accomplished through wanting to see her doing sexual things with other men. The thing that would typically signal the ultimate betrayal and the end of a relationship here is done as a test of faith. She's gonna do this with other men not because she wants to or has any dissatisfactions with him, but as a service to him, and she's gonna prove that she still loves him all the same and has no interest or need for anyone else. He gets the kinky sexual satisfaction of seeing this fantasy happen and her romantic validation, and she gets sexual satisfaction from the kinky sex with others and her jealous hubby, as well as the emotional validation that what she did made him happy. That's where my head lies on the fetish, I think.

But it's such a finicky act in the specifics. Like, if I get the slightest whiff that she is romantically interested in other men, or that someone else is trying to get in the way of the relationship, the sexiness of the story quickly turns into that NTR dread. It can turn on a dime and become really uncomfortable, and it's so difficult to straddle the line perfectly for me. It feels like it has to be done very gradually, with lots of communication bridging the progression, and the reinforcing of the couple's feelings toward each other is paramount.

I know maso people probably don't relate to this blogpost, but perhaps some others do, so there's my unprompted yap.