It proves are they more worried about you maintaining your dignity, or worried about themselves looking bad?

everybody makes mistakes

But only your true friends will immediately tell you what happened
IMMEDIATELY

or as close to immediately as possible
"dude I spent your money and I ended up fucking your girlfriend"

It's better to just get it right out there right up front and don't waste anybody's time

https://youtu.be/VLwpqHdwTXY?si=gbGTe-anWmq69NsE