I fixed things for the most part. Changed my tv settings to gamer mode and turned on vrr and gsync. I figured out in the nvidia settings performance mode was what was causing the vram to be frozen at 15001. Turning it to normal and restarting let everything go down to normal levels.
Having my hz set at 144 it's pretty smooth for the most part now. There is still a tiny bit of hitching but I have to really be looking for it to notice it. Overall it's much better, appreciate all the help everyone thanks a bunch.