>>11360761
Most people prefer catgirl love. I'm fairly unique in that I have a need for punishment and discipline (alongside the catgirl love), but in my experience I'd say like 1 in 5 submissives are similar. Among that 20% I don't think many are comfortable getting into that sort of relationship with someone they don't know. With my mistress it took years. Not to say that it's impossible, but I think you're kinda unicorn hunting, and the best way to find people to play with on a regular basis is to make a bunch of friends.

>>11360785
Maybe you should try bottoming for a soft affectionate top. You'd probably like it (almost universally enjoyable IMO), or at least learn a lot from it. It feels nice to relax and follow someone else's lead for a while.

>>11361007
>actors
>makes sense considering it is an act
I don't think it's an act actually. I really do take pleasure in bdsm, I don't have to fake it. I don't method act or roleplay it either, I dominate and submit as myself. Rather, method actors try to become the character. I'm already a weird caricature of a person, so I already am the character. Instead of trying to be someone else, I just reconnect with my desire for whatever role I'm to play and jump in.

But, again, this is just my experience, and for a lot of people, including many of my partners, roleplay works wonders. I took this approach in part because I suck at it. Whatever you're most confident/comfortable with.

Anyway. Back to slavery talk.