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I wouldn't lean in for a kiss. What has worked for me is that I tease back and make intimacy a dare. But if you are some doughy redditor you probably can't pull it off, looks matter, being fit matters - but you can't advertise it; if you are swole af, do not post gym vids, pics or talk about the gym.
People don't care about the effort, they care about the result. If you leave things to their own imagination they will come up with the explanations they themselves prefer.