>>41077355
Listen bro you should understand that in the subtlest forms, there is no difference between "you" and "others" and anything that benefits you benefits others and vice versa. As long as it is a wholesome benefit of course such as a nice sunset or a cup of tea or something similarly benign. What i mean to say is, it is perfectly fine to not want people to be assholes to you, that doesn't make you selfish. Do not let modern culture in its binaryness make you think it must be all one or the other, that you must be all selfish or all selfless, like a heartless killer vs a martyr saint. At the end of the day we can examine and change our own actions the best and all we have are our actions to stand on, which is why I stand firm in that the best way to get your coworkers and family to treat you better is to spread loving kindness to them. Don't get me wrong, I don't mean to say to kowtow or grovel, stand your ground on what you feel is important. However you must see that anyone who is an asshole to others can only be that way because they are an asshole to themselves first. This is why I like buddhism so much, because it is very logical and direct about how to find peace without any need for worshipping or faulty logic.