>>11352161
The usual advice is to go to the events page on fetlife, and start going to a bunch of munches. Talk to strangers. Try to make a friend. Then go to munches and possibly dungeons with that friend. Make connections to people who live near you, and network through friends of friends. Eventually someone will want to play with you.

This may not get you a dominant in a time efficient manner, but the cool part about being kinky is that you have potential friends everywhere, in whatever city you go to. You can just hop on fet and meet people, knowing that you have mutual interests and something to talk about. Not a lot of hobbies can say that. Gotta be in a city though.

This is how I met all my irl friends when I moved to a new city. I had one kinky friend who lived in that city, and through them I went to a bunch of events and met everyone else. It's harder without that first friend, especially if you don't have a lot of confidence talking to strangers, but I know plenty of people who have done it.