>>11360362 (cont)
>If you've done switching before then that gives a whole different lens on it
I realize that I haven't really talked about this, but yeah, I top. Probably more than I bottom. I frequently do both in the same night. Sometimes one right after another. So, here's more about what I mean about it being a mood thing.

I used to practice summoning and banishing headspaces at will, switching between the two and back to neutral. Now I can do it in like, 5-10 seconds. Note that this doesn't replace aftercare, an endorphin crash is a mostly chemical thing. But it's useful for getting in the mood for the next scene.

For D->s, I start off worrying about too many things. I kneel if the situation allows, close my eyes, take deep breaths, and let myself feel small and sink into my top's presence. I focus all my attention on my top, or the idea of my top if not present, or the feeling of my collar around my neck, and on breathing, letting go, and getting ready to follow their lead and obey. After a bit of meditation, I open my eyes and I'm ready.

For s->D, I start feeling too floaty. So I sit up straight and try to cram myself back into my own body and be present again. Once I've done that I sharpen my attention forward, and I take note of small details on things around the room. I reflect on how a confident top holds themself. Then I think about how nice it would be if someone were begging and crying for me. Then I'm ready.

I think that this is an interesting skill. I do think that it's helped me fully commit to each role. It's also kinda fun. But it isn't, like, required for anything.