I don't wanna douche my butt every time I want to have sex with my partner, and or ruin my healthy genitalia, or peg men in the ass. Therefore I probably won't be dating cis guys.

I don't want to join some trans puppy girl polycule either, and the selection of trans women near me who are A) single B) monogamouos C) around my age and D) not giga ogre hons, is in single digits. I don't think I've ever met one, or then I've just seen one or two of them on some dating app once. So I realistically probably won't be dating a trans woman either, even though I'm technically open to the idea. I really don't have high standards here, hell I'm willing to top!

Trans guys near me on the other hand kinda end up looking like teenage boys because of how they dress AND the fact that they're either pre-T or so early into T that they have completely smooth, round faces and no "edge" to them that they would've developed if they actually had grown up as men or gone through a male puberty. I'm just not into that, so I probably won't be dating a trans guy either.

This means that the most realistic, compatible option for me is to get together with a cis woman or a mildly dysphoric theyfab, and I don't think reaching that conclusion makes me worse than straight trans women.