>>82233613
because a lot of "parents" think that loving a kid = ensuring their survival, so even if they treat their offspring like complete shit and they end up hating the parent, it doesn't matter
so basically if you're a smart loving parent you'll do your very best to make your kid smart and loving too, but if you were a fucking egotistical scumbag and hateful towards your kid, you don't really care if your kid turns out the same. just that you did your best by punishing them (in a way that was never actually helpful,) meaning the kids' flaws aren't their fault
and thus that's enough to save their ego. because they fed you and gave you shelter, how could they NOT love you?! they could literally rape you and use this excuse