get your attachment style:
https://quiz.attachmentproject.com/

attachment style is how you handle relationships, including friendships. In general, you want someone who matches your style or is otherwise willing to "put up" with you, so this is really valuable information for actually finding meaningful long term relationships.

>asl
>attachment style
>hobbies/interests
>free space
>discord tag

>27/M/AZ
>Fearful-Avoidant / Disorganized
>Anime, music, literature, fragrance, culinary arts
>I yap my heart out about niche topics
>technicalzoomer

the hell

>>34163619
what's your tag tho

>>34163648
tag?

i thought I was pretty rational and reasonable.

It seems i'm very secure when it comes to partners, though. So that's good news, right?

is this why i can't find a bf? I am too sane with relationships? that would make a lot of sense. I tend to call out a lot of weird stuff.

I wanna know how many other people have messed up attachment styles when it comes to partners.
The world is cruel and violent and selfish, shouldn't your partner be the only person you can trust? Or are they just a sex supplier?

>>34162684 (OP)
fun thread i hate myself

>25 m usa
>music or manga, tech salary cuck
>nilarss
I'm cooked gentlemen

Hey there! I'm a 21-year-old girl from the US, a little on the wild side, and I love taking control during steamy chats. Nothing gets me more excited than seeing how far I can push a guy while we both enjoy the thrill. I'm always down for some fun, but I have a bit of social anxiety, so flirting online is totally my jam! If you’re into some spicy conversations, hit me up on that app where we can share some naughty pics and messages! My username is l una-s t ivq (just make sure to remove the spaces and dashes when you add me). Can't wait to chat and see what we can get into!

apparently i am secure (doubt)

>>34162684 (OP)
>26/F/SoCal
>Anxious/Preoccupied
>Taking dumb tests on the Internet
>Mom never wanted children and was completely detached and somewhat verbally abusive. Dad is a straight up narc, which actually makes him dependable on a superficial level, but can't share anything emotional whatsoever; typical Boomer. Current partner has totally checked out on me. I have a good relationships with randoms and coworkers. I just happened to get delt a shitty hand in my familial life.
>I'd have to make a new one

>>34162684 (OP)
I am built different.

>only one side says anything sane
...

Welcome to the non-wagie server, a server for non-wagies!
https://discord.gg/XDwFesvK3N

>>34164192
guess I'll explain myself too since you're doin it

>>34163752
>28/mtf/SoCal
>Dad was a conspiracy theorist christian nationalist before george bush had his first pubic hair. He was raped a lot when he was little so he was super defensive about the tiniest things and projected a lot of his weird anger onto me for being the smallest and easiest to pick on. He psychologically messed me up because he was a very angry scary man who never made a lick of sense, and at times said weird sexual things. Very threatening man, lived in a completely different reality so it wasn't hard to upset him, it was like dealing with a mentally ill crackhead. It crippled my ability to function as a person since I never had a feeling of security, not just emotionally but physically, so it altered my brain chemistry and almost medically killed me.
>Step mom was a narcissistic psychopath who hated me since the day she met me because I was cute and innocent but she was a middle aged beast who had hit the wall. She seemed to have a natural hatred for me, like that was the starting line, so I couldn't have a relationship with her unless I hated myself. Any time I showed any amount of self-love I was held in contempt. She was the feminine version of my father, so a bit less scary, but absolutely an intolerable person and by no means contributed to my personal growth.
>Generally people hold me in poor regard, I do subscribe to the lookism side of things because I always have looked like a trap, so I think people feel they can abuse me however they want because I look weak and innocent. Society is run by selfish fleshly desires, so this makes sense. If you are easy to pick on, people will, and you are expected to roll with the punches. I find that I have a very unique perspective on reality since I am not blinded by the same privileges everyone else has, and I therefore make others feel bad about themselves like they're doing something wrong, because I invoke their guilty conscience.

>>34164245
I'm probably pretty sane when it comes to relationships with partners because the thing that saved my life was when I fell in love with a man online who, although a groomer, often put my needs first and therefore taught me everything about how I deserve to be treated and I've just been goin about life ever since then.

He taught me that I deserve physical safety and security, and for people to listen to me, and I deserve not just respect but to be held and cherished and that I am precious. People are called to face reality and accept the burdens life puts on them, and most people are not willing to do that in their hearts, so that is what I've noticed the most about people in life. People reject higher callings because they are in pain from things that happened to them, such as my dad being raped. Had he accepted his pain, he could of been a hero to me instead of some groomer online. If people accept their burdens, they can receive high esteem in god's eyes, but because they refuse to, they chase things in lowly ways, forever trailing what they want.

People convince themselves many things about themselves, but few of them true. People convince themselves of many things. When it comes to partners, you both have to be open if you want it to go strong.

>>34163752
>>34164036
>>34164245
>>34164280
OH MY GOD
WHO
THE HELL
CARES

>>34164245
i respect the introspection however this a little tmi for /soc/

>>34164321
>>34164313
sorry you guys
I'm aware no one cares, I just have no other way to let it all out, so you're gonna have to stomach me until I'm banned again or I croak. :(

woah i don't know what this means

>>34162684 (OP)
23 y/o khhv
it's over

Bump, i'll post results

>28f/us
>secure (?)
>friedeggcell

>>34162684 (OP)
27/F/USA

>>34164222
We both are, Brother.

why is nobody posting their tag?

is this good?

27/m/fl
>anonfromfl

>>34163648
god I came back here and realized I cannot read, my tag is tianwq

>asl
18/M/Eu
>attachment style
Disorganized/ Fearful-Avoidant
>hobbies/interests
History, biology, collecting old things, art, geography, video games etc
>free space
idk, :(
>discord tag
alpsdd

>>34162684 (OP)
>Your General Attachment Style is: Avoidant / Dismissive
Yay. What do I win? Btw, the "relationship" section is kinda stupid to fill out when you're an incel. What, I'm supposed to imagine myself in a relationship? Is it supposed to be an ideal one? A shitty one? Once that I think is the most probable? I don't get the angle there. Not giving them my name and email for the full report, thank you very much.

>>34164406
Hope things get better anon

you should get attached to this server

https://discord.gg/cfgnXABm9X