>>715373885>That said, is there really nothing but doom and gloom for Japanese?On the contrary. In fact the thing that consistently strikes me as fascinating, so much that I can't stop returing to Japan, is the constant duality and seemingly paradoxical nature of... everything Japanese. And when it comes to life, it's the paradox of having such a deeply pesimistic outlook on life in general, and having such an insane propensity to ENJOY things in life, seek those little things to appreciate.
Which makes sense, they ballance each other out.
Yeah, "Life fucking sucks, so holy shit I'm going to pay so much more attention to how nice the weather today is!" kind of deal. Japanese people generally don't understand the concept of cynicism. They are especially absolutely unashamed of positive emotions. The kind of childish glee we are deep-programmed to be embarrased about, is just 100% natural to them. They don't mock each other for it, because... I genuinely believe the just have to seize any and all reasons to be happy possible, since you never know if it's going to be the last one for the rest of your life.
I like it, but I'm an eastern-european, a fucking slav, so it is impossible for me not to fucking cringe and feel incredibly embarrassed for so much of the things Japs unashamedly enjoy. Their humor, their fascination with pop-culture, their childish stories... to us it seems often so immature, but to them... we are fucking idiots just depriving ourselves of joy in life that is mostly already suffering.
So yeah, that is the counter-balance of their doom-and-gloom: the comparatively much greater and more intense appreciation of small joys: food, weather, sex etc... They appreciate all of those things much more than we do, in general that is.
Also, Japan does have a few very strong moral codes, and the one that is most fascinating, is their comparatively MUCH greater value placed on the idea of parenthood. But that is for another several blocks of text so...