>>40597445 (OP)This took me a long time to get my head around when I first heard it... but, I hope this helps you in this moment anon, or moves you towards progress.
> Every experience we have in this life is an "internal" experience. Even though we mentally perceive reality as external, our input and chosen reactions are always contained within us.. (much like the photo you posted for this thread. It gives a good illustration of what I'm talking about.) Therefore the people we meet, and the emotions we feel for them are just "the excuse" we use to experience the emotion were feeling.Whichever emotion its is that were experiencing has always existed within us. So if you felt love for this girl, that "love" always existed within you and she was your excuse you used to feel that emotion. That means that the love you had for her still exists within you right now.
What separates you from feeling that love again now is the "narrative" we tell ourselves about what it is we should be feeling.
For instance, if you lived your entire life on a desert island far away from the modern world. If this same event happened to you in a small tribe, you probably wouldn't feel the same pain. Maybe your narrative would be, "any form of procreation is good because more people is less work". Your idea of your life would be different.
Thus, we've been sold the idea of what our lives should be and with that when we should feel pain. The nuclear family and the school, work, death cycle are elements of these ideas, and along the way we've been taught which things we should want and "socially" what makes us look inferior. Being cheated on we've been told is very embarrassing for a man because we weren't good enough to keep a woman, but the truth is that this has nothing to really do with you. You're currently using the event to experience the pain within you. You will meet other people and the love that exists within you, you will feel again when you allow yourself to feel it again.
