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Too many people get into their heads and fixate way too much on "what-ifs" instead of just engaging with people socially and simply letting things play out. This tends to result in a lot of unnecessary anxieties when it comes to socializing in general, which in turn causes a lot of awkward misunderstandings or sloppy statements that aren't curated to their ideal conversational framework. This then leads to a sense of dejection, self-loathing on account of "mistakes", or most frequently, a presumption of the other party heavily fixating on that one mistake made rather than the rest of the interaction(s) made (in the same vein as someone thinking every person on earth is looking at their double-chin and not the entire rest of their body), so rather than engaging again, they withdraw or retreat from talking to people to avoid the potential of making those missteps and thus being heavily judged.
The reality is that almost nobody gives a fuck that you said something cringey at one point, and that by simply conversing and interacting, most of the time they're usually either just happy to be interacting with someone else, or they're feeling you out. If you don't know when to shut the fuck up, just start paying attention to their body language or regular conversation. Let others talk too. If they seem to be cutting things short or seem to be trying to get away, you might just not be in a situation where they want to socialize, and you're best off just letting it be and either trying again another day, or instead conversing with a different friend. Regular normal people say retarded shit every day that would make an anon kill himself if he made that social faux pas, and other regular normal people don't give a shit beyond sometimes teasing them for saying that stupid shit. 4chan is not indicative of a regular human's mindset, even if it's the the least filtered you'll see of a 4chan denizen's mind. Just reach out and talk, anons.
