>>281185083They're very similar when you put it like that, but I don't know. Somehow they still feel different. Maybe it's the personalities of everyone involved.
>I guess directing that frustration towards Yor herself is more interesting than being catty towards the person who "ruined" her.That's part of it, but I also think losing wouldn't be devastating to Hemlock the way it is to Fiona. Part of what makes Fiona annoying is that she won't take no for an answer. No matter how many times Loid rejects her or she sees and acknowledges clear evidence of him falling for his wife, she keeps coming back. She can't comprehend life without him. It's not endearing. It's pathetic.
Hemlock is more independent. Yor rebukes him, and he's clearly shaken, but he backs off and reevaluates. Unlike Fiona, he can learn a lesson. The pain doesn't go away, but he's not going to make it Yor's problem in the future. Even with his solitude schtick, I believe that to be the case.
Finally, I think Hemlock is just less delusional than Fiona. There is no reality, with or without Yor, where Loid ends up with Fiona. But Yor is not anti-relationship the way Loid is. Both of them struggled deeply with loneliness and have been through many of the same hardships. And Yor is hardly choosy. If Hemlock had approached her before Loid had, there's a real chance they'd be together now. Being frustrated that your autism was too great until it was too late can be endearing, especially if you're willing to eventually cut your losses and move on.
tl;dr they're similar, but Hemlock feels like he could've been a better version of Fiona.