>been dating cute girl for just over 2 months now
>great personality, common interests, good looking, same age, no kids
>we only hang out once a week, she really likes me but practically lives at work
>first relationship ever for me @ 30yo
>her lack of time for me pisses me off
>turned dating apps back on
>getting lots of likes from younger women
>really tempted to ditch this girl I like and just get laid with younger women
I'm between a rock and a hard place here and really don't know what to do, please advise me anons

>>33185789 (OP)
Literally you sound like a woman. You have a vagina m8. Also if you haven't agreed to committed relationship you should be shagging multiple women anyway and you choose which girl you like the best. Don't even ditch her in that case, just make her your Friday girl or whatever

Just masturbate if you're horny.

>we only hang out once a week

Bro, chill your boner out. Once a week is great if you aren't already living together. Enjoy the day together and in the rest of the time form a life that isn't just about getting laid.

>>33187727
Golden advice here, OP. If you like her, build your relationship up. Ignore the Tatebros, a good relationship is worth infinitely more than hooking up every other night

>>33187727
>>33187783
I don't know anons, this week she went out with her friends instead, then text me around 11pm asking me to meet them (she's like an hours drive away). How the fuck am I supposed to build a relationship like this? I never thought I'd be the one doing the dumping in a relationship but damn if I ain't tempted.

>>33185789 (OP)
This is your first relationship, so you may have some FOMO. Some pointers:
-Many of those younger women liking your profile won't even talk to you or are willing to go out on dates.
-A girl liking you for you (as in, likes hanging out with you) is a godsend, as it seems you like her back.
-Respecting her boundaries will make you hotter, and solidify your relationship. Hanging out once a week gives you proper time to miss the other one and have twice the fun you'd have if you saw them daily. Trust me on this one, you will MISS this stage of the relationship if you decide to go forward with it.
-Keep busy while you are apart. Grind, see friends, practice hobbies. Always try to keep your individuality and part of your life separate from the relationship. Extremely important to keep this in mind for it to work out long term. Cherish the time you are together, cherish the time you spend apart. Ignore the sirens (that's all the apps are, sirens singing in your head)
I believe in you.

>>33185789 (OP)
Reality check: In your age group most people have lives. They have jobs, friends, commitments of vatious sorts. A romantic or sexual life has to find a place in that mix. She sounds like a perfectly normal adult and potentially a good catch, but you simply can't expect her to give you 100% of her time and attention

>>33187827
Thanks for the advice
>see freinds
I'm at that age where all my friends have families of their own now, we never really meet up anymore.
>>33187853
I work 13hr shifts 5/6 days a week, still feels like we don't see each other often enough.

>>33187877
>I'm at that age where all my friends have families of their own now, we never really meet up anymore.
Keep in touch, but I suggest trying to make more friends

>>33185789 (OP)
relationship is not only about pampering you, moron. even not liking her job cannot be a red flag.
do you like her? being with her?? it's the only thing that matters. companionship, love, and be loved.

mark my words, boy: after you coom a couple times, you will understand.

>>33185789 (OP)
>>33188397

btw every couple crisis start from the idea that one part believes that is not receiving enough for what is given. analyse that. is it situational, or been always like this? and do it out of the fragile masculinity box, because we can always be inside an disguised ego trip.

in 1,5 years I'll leave the 30's with wife and kid. that's my wisdom for you, anon.

>>33187800
Honestly, it sounds like you’re not her priority. Couples dating for just two months will probably be crazy for each other and spend every moment possible together. If you meet only once a week and she still blows you off somewhat frequently, that’s not a good sign. If this only happened once so far then wait and see.

You could always, you know, tell her you want to spend more time together or that you feel it’s not enough

>>33187800
Have you ever had a serious job? Imagine spending 6 days a week just pure suffering and on the 7th you want to make the best use of the time you can. Maintaining friendships is important and sometimes a person is going to desire to spend time with the people she has build a long term friendship with over some new fling.

>then text me around 11pm asking me to meet them
she wants to make it so she can hang out with both you and her friends in here limited amount of free time. God damn how autistic are you?

>I never thought I'd be the one doing the dumping in a relationship but damn if I ain't tempted.

You know what? yeah, dump her and send me her number so I can be sure you dumped her.

>>33185789 (OP)
>>we only hang out once a week, she really likes me but practically lives at work
Should we tell him?

>>33189604
Tell him what?

>>33188542
>Couples dating for just two months will probably be crazy for each other and spend every moment possible together.
Exactly, this is what my friends and sister have told me happend in their relationships
>>33188996
>Have you ever had a serious job?
I work an average of 66 hours a week
>>33189604
She still has 2 days off a week but we only meet up for an evening a week

>>33187800
She ditched you to go out with her friends she most likely got drunk and fucked chad, maybe you're not forward enough with her

>>33187727
>>33187800
You sound like my gf. She wants to see me 4-5 times a week and I only have time to see her on weekends (she lives an hour away). She hated me for a long time and thought I didn’t care about her or loved her. Chill out dude.

>>33185789 (OP)
sounds like you have different priorities in life
you can talk to her about it, but it's probably not going to change anything

>>33185789 (OP)
I'm almost in this exact situation. Dating for 2 months and we like to spend time together but she's not married to work, she just isn't super experienced dating (maybe a little autistic) and is conservative and a Christian and goes home a lot and isn't a huge texter so we talk daily but go on dates once a week and I feel like I want to spend more time with her but don't know how to go about it. She's said she's feels like we're in the getting to know each other phase still and I don't know what I can do to make her feel more romantically interested besides spending more time with her. I could go back on apps and have downloaded hinge again but I'd prefer to be with her than someone else. I'm also 30.

>>33187827
Wtf actually good advice on this board??!

>>33193446
And to add I guess what OP and I are feeling is that there's an inequality in the relationship. And as a guy you want your lady being the one who's dying to see you so it feels off when you're the one dying to see them.

>>33185789 (OP)
consider: talk to her about this?

why do people refuse to engage in basic adult communication

"I really like you and I've enjoyed hanging out but I really wish we could spend more time together. I feel like you're always at work, and I understand your career is important but I'm worrying that you can't make time for anything else at the moment. I guess I just need to know if there’s space in your life for this to grow, or if things are too hectic right now" etc etc

Is that so hard?

>>33193480
It is

>>33193558
relationships are built on a foundation of communication. if you can't do that you'll never keep someone long-term. Time to learn to be a fucking adult.

>>33193480
bro, in what universe is something like that supposed to work?
she'll just call you clingy or controlling and double down on her career
absolute best case scenario is she'll force herself to spend more time with you and start resenting you for it
you can't force people to be what you want them to be

>>33193558
If you're going to dump her anyway, you might as well copy and paste it and send and see what happens.

>>33193480
This is my plan next time I see her, I'm a little concerned that she'll see me as clingy or desperate though, she has a lot of friends and is very extraverted, I feel like a third wheel sometimes. I think she's a little autistic, I've noticed a lot of little signs and she's unlike any other women I've ever met (massively into D&D, a colossal weeb, geeky as fuck). On the upside, she texts me a lot more now.

>>33196961
Why are you waiting till next week just tell her now you fucking autist

>>33193449
If I can prevent someone else from making my own mistakes, then they'll count for something I guess

>>33199536
Again, thanks for your advice. We had a long chat and straightened some stuff up, she's definitely a keeper. I should add - one of the things that annoyed me is that we always meet up in the late evening so by that time most of the day is gone. On an unrelated note she keeps dropping hints that she has a domination fetish, so that's going to be interesting.

>>33198383
I hate talking about serious shit over the phone, would much rather discuss it with her in person

absolutely you should have fun with those other women. but once that happens just forget this girl, relationships aren't worth all this effort. eventually you can find a nice girl to be happy with if you want to but this one isnt worth it

>>33201279
It was tempting but I'm going to stick with this women, I get the feeling that fucking random woman will be fun but just hollow and souless