Thread 33186550

If you respond too quickly to someone, does that show them that you're submissive and easy to control?

>>33186550 (OP)
I won't read requests to calibrate what is or isn't normal, posted by subhuman autistic retards who need a formula for every minutia of social interaction.

>>33186550 (OP)
Depends on the kind of dynamic that you have going.
Sometimes it's great, some it's terrible.

>>33186734
Hey it's I won't read guy! My favorite subhuman! :D

>>33186550 (OP)
It means you over think it. And if someone does read into your messaging habits as a means of power dynamics, then you should avoid them because that's psychotic.

>>33186550 (OP)
don't care about stuff like that. just don't stay glued to your phone all the time

>>33186774
>>33186783
This is IRL stuff, not about texting.

>>33186830
My response still applies. Unless you're responding so quickly that you cut them off. Then work on slowing down, because that can be rude.

>>33186830
what the fuck are you talking about then? do you think you're supposed to pause a few seconds before each response? don't rush the conversation beyond what the other person is comfortable with and maybe don't blurt out the first thing on your mind (or maybe do depending on the situation)

>>33186837
>>33186841
It's not a conversation

>>33186913
so you're communicating in real life and not through text messages but it's not a conversation? are you leaving behind voice messages in dead drops that random people pick up and reply to? technically it wouldn't be a conversation that way because the recipients would be different for each message and there would be no way for them to respond to you specifically.

>>33186978
No, this is real time, in real life.

>>33186550 (OP)
No.
But give it 5 min unless the conversation is live.
It's dumb but people some how think it means you are "waiting on the next chance to respond"
Really it mostly just means you would rather just respond than put it off.

>>33187064
ok that's a tough one.

1. it's in real life (and I assume not over any digital channel)
2. it's not texting
3. it's not a conversation
4. it's in real time

1, 2 and 4 are easily fulfilled by various other communication methods like smoke signals but 3 is hard to crack because most communication that happens in real time is a conversation. and in this case i define a conversation as communication where there are at least 2 people involved and there is at least one response to a previous send message. but in the OP you mentioned that this topic is about responding to a previous message.
>If you respond too quickly to someone
>respond
therefor the only logical question to ask next is...

OP are you talking to yourself?

if that's the case my advice to you is literally: don't beat yourself up over this

>>33187141
>literally: don't beat yourself up over this
kek

Think of it like two people that are not friends and one of them has issued an aggressive command or statement to the other in an attempt to assert dominance or control over the other.

>>33187235
ok i actually and unironically get what you mean now. but in that case it doesn't matter how fast or slow you respond verbally. you either comply, refuse, ignore or physically fight.

you can take as much time as you can before tackling them to the ground and sending them to pound town without appearing submissive or easy to control lol and even if you only verbally refuse the longer you draw out the simple "no" the more it'll mark the point

>>33186550 (OP)
the older i get the more i think this is the dumbest way of living. those who respond fast are always confident

>>33187313
i noticed i focused on the "command" part. if it's an aggressive statement like an insult you have to decide if it's worth fighting over it.

also i assumed the other person is hostile to you. maybe they are also just bantering and trying to see if your head is stuck up your ass and how quickly you can throw back a witty response

>>33187319
there are people who take long pauses to think before answering a question and it makes their words way more impactful. when appropriate of course

>>33186550 (OP)
Sometimes I leave people on read or don't answer phone calls just so I can set the tone that I am not always available. Sometimes I will even leave my phone at home if I'm not going out of town just so I'm not thinking about it. I had an ex who was insane and tried to keep me on a short leash, and a couple of friends who were just super weird about me being available, so I do this to maintain a barrier that new people in my life won't be able to try and pull me into that again.

>>33186734
What's up with you and subhumans? You got a fetish for that kinda stuff?

>>33188183
Of course he does

>>33189420
A subhuman fetish.

>>33186734
women are the ones overanalyzing every minutia of social interaction, we're just trying to match them so we can get pussy. it ain't our fault

>>33192923
I think it's just easier to pay an escort

>>33186550 (OP)
Yes, because it's part of the "social game" that people have created.
You're no longer "engaged", instead you're desperate, because everyone is convinced to think that way.

>>33186550 (OP)
No, it just shows you operate a lot more quickly and at a higher level. The faster you speak (or text) the faster your brain is working and therefore smarter than them

>>33186550 (OP)
No. It shows you're chorncially on the device they used to contact you.

>>33197439
Oh that's why he talks like that. I thought it was because he was a faggot.

>>33197638
lol

>>33197439
How come Ben Shapiro doesn't have a jew nose?

>>33186550 (OP)
submit to me. I will control you.

>>33198280
BE LOYAL TO ME AND I WILL NEVER BETRAY YOU

>>33198689
prove yourselves prove yourselves to me...

>>33199955
Out there is a new world!
Out there is our victory!
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>>33198689
GREETINGS PROGRAMS!!!

>>33186550 (OP)
If someone wants to extrapolate my entire life story based on how I respond in a timely manner then that's their problem

>>33202742
extrapolate this dildo into my ass :D

Pro tip; any female who is selecting for things with 0% correlation to survival have 50 guys dming them and have a 100% chance of divorcing/failing in all of their relationships.

You should always be truthful and filter away shallow people from dating you.

>>33186550 (OP)
It takes someone who over analyses to consciously recognise this, if you do that, I think it does show signs of obsessiveness, which is in my experience worse for the obsessed themselves. If you mean unconsciously sending signals to them that you are submissive and/or easy to control, it depends on how they message. If they take their sweet time and message only like 1 hour after, but you reply immediately it does, yeah, but if it is a minute or so in between then I honestly doubt it has a large if any effect unconsciously.

>>33203428
Thank you for sharing your opinion, sexy anime lady character.

>>33186550 (OP)
it shows nothing you excessively self-conscious retard

literally the only time this might matter is if you always immediately respond to someone who consistently takes days (like literal days or weeks) to message you

>>33203428
>>33204674
This is a face to face interaction. It has absolutely nothing to do with text messaging.

>>33204799
HAHAHAHA imagine you are scared of face to face psychology you fucking retard!

See it like this, texting is theory, irl is practice. In theory we have exact values where they can be interpreted and deducted to meaning by processing them long enough, but in practice (IRL) most of whatever you do besides the usage of words and gestures are negligible.

As long as you stare in people's eyes (unlikely cause I detect tism) and don't say self-conscious and/or insecure shit you are just fine. If someone does get a prediction about you right it's most likely just a one-shot lucky draw cause they are schizophrenic/paranoid.

>>33205366
It's not a conversation, dude.

>>33205815
I covered both online and IRL scenarios, there is no 3rd scenario, try harder

>>33206845
>there is no 3rd scenario
yes there is YOU try harder

>>33207488
What is it then

Fuck uncropped image, I lose

>>33207884
You're in prison and one of the inmates looks in your direction and says "hey you"

>>33207890
You realize you can delete your post, right?

>>33207925
That situation is still IRL hence my second point stands

>>33207933
I wish, it says "something went wrong" the entire time lol

>>33207981
Just because it's IRL doesn't remove from the fact that every situation is unique. A prison inmate is saying "hey you" is not the same situation as your girlfriend saying "hey you"

>>33207981
>"something went wrong"
You have a minimum amount of time you have to wait (I think 2 minutes) and a maximum time you can wait (I think 10 minutes? But definitely not beyond an hour) or else you will get that message.

As long as you are within that window, you can delete.

>>33202923
Degenerate

>>33207981
>hence my second point stands
No it doesn't
>>33205366
>don't say self-conscious and/or insecure shit
Because you're conflating a conversation with an encounter between two people.

How you respond to people is more important than what you say.

If I see you out in the hallway and I say hello to you, and you purposefully ignore me, that's gonna tell me you're not in the mood for any shit and you're not easily controlled.

There's nothing self conscious or insecure about saying hello. And this definitely wasn't a conversation.

>>33186550 (OP)
No you're only submissive and easy to control if you're submissive and easy to control

>>33210996
Well then

>>33210045
"Self-conscious and/or insecure" was just an example; obviously there is more to it, like you said, how you act, etc. An encounter and a conversation still share similarities. I just didn't think of such a scenario at this particular moment.

The point you made though doesn't disprove that the thing I said is not true, you just added to it.

>>33198250
He has a shoe nose, that is also a typical jew nose. Netanyahu has it.

>>33186550 (OP)
If you try to play some game where you are autistically measuring the amount of time you take to respond it will not go well.

But there is such a thing as being a needy texter. Are you always instantaneously responding? But then responding instantly a lot of the times is the right play. Just don't overthink it, and don't be an obsessed loser waiting for their texts all the time. Just be normal lol

>>33213450
>The point you made though doesn't disprove that the thing I said is not true, you just added to it.
Well... I hate you

>>33186550 (OP)
I don't think it matters. I mean, if you can answer, why not answer? I used to feel that way, but I suppose it means dedicating too much mental energy to something pretty mundane.

>>33186550 (OP)
At work I would always wait 15 min to respond, otherwise they abuse my attention and won't stop talking to me.

>>33217163
You lucky. At work I get no attention at all. I don't exist.

>>33218166
:(

>>33218166
Like no fucking attention at all.