For most of my life, I've always had the same problem: I'm almost incapable of socializing. I feel so mediocre and awkward that I'm afraid people will hate me, so I'm avoidant. But I'm almost an adult, and at my old age, it's getting awkward (and being alone makes me want to ropemaxx).
But basically, how am I supposed to overcome this? Every time I make a social effort, I fumble, then I just want to spend a week alone, and I'm too cowardly to ropemaxx.

>>33205121 (OP)
>For most of my life, I've always had the same problem: I'm almost incapable of socializing. I feel so mediocre and awkward that I'm afraid people will hate me, so I'm avoidant. But I'm almost an adult, and at my old age, it's getting awkward (and being alone makes me want to ropemaxx).
stop caring if other people hate you or are annoyed by you. keep approaching unless they get violent or call for security

>But basically, how am I supposed to overcome this? Every time I make a social effort, I fumble, then I just want to spend a week alone, and I'm too cowardly to ropemaxx.
keep being persistent you need reps and exposure to overcome your social anxiety nothing else works

>>33205121 (OP)
like anything, social confidence comes from repetition. And the only thing it sounds like you are repeating is calling yourself a coward. If you don't work out already, do it, and learn the basic fundamental truth of how repetition = results. Apply this to anything you want to improve in your life. To socialize, for example, you could start with something as basic as signing up for some sport or class once a week just to talk to people while you do it. The point is, you will never get good at anything until you do it many times. And don't forget about the way you're talking to yourself in your head - calling yourself a "coward" over and over again will make you believe it, and act like it. So train yourself to throw those thoughts away as they come up and eventually you won't think them anymore.

>>33205121 (OP)
Same dude and it's making me wanna shoot myself but while I don't have the guts to do it I'll keep fucking up until I learn to fit in or grow the balls to shoot myself

>>33205121 (OP)
Read the rules. This is an adult site. Spend less time on the internet. Go outside and meet neighbours.

>>33206420
This is solid advice.

He's right that by telling yourself you're a coward is creating a self fulfilling prophecy.

>>33205121 (OP)
Take meds, I only was able to make any friends while on venlafaxine. Once I stopped I also stopped being able to socialize.

>>33205121 (OP)
Just for practice, find a club or circle you don't particularly care about, so it is no great loss if you screw up the socializing there. You will obsess less and therefore quite probably do better than you expect.

>>33205121 (OP)
Socializing is a LOT easier when you are actually doing something at the same time. What you're doing gives you automatic common ground and topic for conversation, and also covers any gaps in the conversation.

Get a job, play a team sport, do volunteer work, etc