This is a wild situation to be in. Basically long story short, my parents are locking in my arranged marriage next year. I thought I could bow out from sheer embarassment because I'm a NEET bum at 28 (not actually a NEET but basically failed in my career)

They are in absolute panic mode and are choosing to proceed anyway and I'm like "with what money?" and they were like "with debt if we have too" and thats when I realized - holy fuck , short of running away there is no getting out of this.

The problem is my IT credentials (not even a bachelors in CS) are basically worthless in this market and especially where I live, they said the only way I get more time is if I find a good job and basically its time to properly save up for the actual wedding. Im actually trying to basically pivot out of tech entirely on the lowkey but stringing them along because I'd be homeless without their support. I have about 6.5Y of work experience since high school but in retail / typical college kid shit.

What the fuck do I do, I've never even held hands with a girl without sweating kek

>>33206500 (OP)

When I reflect on when I was happiest, its when I was "free" of my cultural identity and could just be like everyone else, basically when I took a trip with friends or solo and could just shed all my baggage. but that costs money , big money to set up for the long term and basically pay everyone off. Most poor whites or other groups even here can't really do it.

But obviously a practical life can't be built around that without burning my entire support network and in the world we are headed towards , going solo is going to be a miserable position.

>>33206551

The way I see it from a hyper pragmatic perspective:

> marry a fat chick
basically fuck any genetics gains for my offspring, but I would arguably be happy. I would be in some semblance of control, im jacked and handsome - I just grew up hella sheltered and shy. I think she would be willing to overlook that and be willing to grow as a couple. I could brainwash myself into being a plapjak / fat girl enjoyer. but I would weep for my children. I could mold her into whatever.

> marry a hot chick
High risk cause lets be real she only wants a passport , if she's hot , then she probably had options even back home or even an ex she's pining for or expecting me to be somewhat of a smooth player just cause I grew up abroad.

But at least in a lookism society I gave my kid a fucking shot and maybe got some skinny girl pussy once in my life - even if im sweating bullets the whole time tryna play it cool. When I reflect on my fathers life , he never made many / if any real friends here and my mother was his version of the hot skinny girl - he made that sacrifice for me to give me a chance , he even had a darker first bride that would have made him happier but he gave it up for my actual mother. Who is a shrew in every sense but desu I don't blame her , my dad was a deadbeat.

>>33206662

but then I think of the worst case scenario - what if she's fat and STILL turns out a shrew cause of social media / the internet age.

Which poison to pick?

>fat/skinny
>Genetics
These are two different concepts, someone with shit genetics can skinny and someone with good genetics can get fat, weight is a product of upbringing not genetics, or at least the split is more 75 25 skewed towards upbringing

>>33206551
>Cultural identity "free"
You don't need money or travel for that. You're just a retarded coward, you could get all that for free by interacting with the array of humans around you and learning their ins and outs and getting a grasp of human nature plus yourself. But your parents raised you in a retarded way, you're a sheltered retard, ignorant and bitch made, you bend to your parents' whims including forcing a life partner onto you

You already reflected on your parents and see they are shit examples so why are you still following in their footsteps?

Idk 2nd gen run-of-the-mill pajeet, grow some fucking balls, maybe pick the chick with money since you are bordering on homeless

Fucking faggot

The answer is the one with better genetics, btw. But you're too blind to identify better genetics anyway

>>33206500 (OP)
Just say no

>>33206500 (OP)
What are you even asking here?
You should do what makes you happy first and foremost. If arranged is what's currently going to happen, and you don't want it, reject it.

>>33206500 (OP)
Does the arranged marriage make your situation worse? You could just refuse then. Else why not go for it tho.

>>33206500 (OP)
>especially where I live
Well, it's no better here, and we're full anyway, and we hate your guts, will not welcome you, and you also won't find a hot, white gf here.

>>33207873
Yeah
I am so tired of this board being filled with third worlders, its really trash now

>>33206500 (OP)
fixed that for you.

>>33206500 (OP)
>with what money?
That question is part of whatever plan you form: How much and whether you even need it. Nobody you shit, but you have infinite possibilities, get it? This matter of having a plan has been written about so many time on this board that I (and many others, I suspect) are a bit sick of restating it all, so look in the archives. https://archive.4plebs.org/adv/

>>33206916
>These are two different concepts

I'm well aware, I just reduced it to the most basic dichotomy that any twenty something (who on average is the poster here) would be able to figure out. Fat- generally unhealthy , skinny/hot/fit - generally healthier.

> grow some fucking balls to say no
>>33207045
Not happening without money desu thats why I asked in the first place unless I want homelessness , parents dont love me THAT much either to just ignore it or overstep it.

>>33207051
>What are you even asking here?

Honestly at its core , what I'm really asking is - can I get upto speed on female dynamics, communication skills, and being a man in one year? If so what is your guys recommended roadmap?

>>33207073
>Does the arranged marriage make your situation worse?

Yes , because if for whatever reason if I cannot secure stable income by then , then I become the deadbeat dad and this whole cycle repeats. They want me to get married come hell or high water but they don't fucking understand - how do you support a family with no money? Sure she can work in women heavy professions like education or support staff or whatever but its not enough in this economy.

I am trying to get out of the whole situation but its fucking hard.

>>33207990
>>33207873

Oh boo fucking hoo , cry a river

>>33208309
fine