She came over to my room last night with a friend and after she bailed on us after 10 minutes we spent like 3 to 4 hours just talking and laughing together. We haven't spoken like this in months and it's been a year since she ended the relationship

I do not care if you are Ryan Gosling, let her come to you if she has a crush on you. You can open up to her saying, "hey I thought maybe you like me, do you want to hang out like we used to?" But other than that you let it be her decision. Hwe crush on you is as private as the text messages on her phone, so do not invade her privacy other than meanadering about your life as usual despite it. I promise you, you got to leave a girl's crush to herself unless she opens up about it.

>>33207034
I mean is it a crush if we've already had a relationship? I think she just wants to keep in touch with me and with how evsaive i've been her only recourse is coming directly to my room where I can't escape

are you evading her because you still want to be with her?

>>33207117
I don't know, maybe. I guess being around her knowing she doesn't like me kinda hurts a little

>>33207231
>idk maybe kinda
sort your thoughts out, this is very gay

>being around her knowing she doesn't "like" me
this feeling drives me completely insane
it does pass

confront her and find out her intentions before she strings you along
(she might not know what she's doing or what she wants either btw rofl)
so you need to set boundaries
"we can be friends but you can't just show up at my place"
"we should downgrade from friends to aquaintances until i get over you" (this actually worked for me once)
"never talk to me again"