I've had a falling out with a friend we'll call Jerry for about 2-3 months. I've known him since high school. My best friend and his wife want me to apologize so we can all go out to dinner tomorrow.

I've been going through a bad period in my life (injured, unemployed, single, etc.) and he was getting on me about being lazy and shit, also bragging about all of the free shit he gets from his wife's work. I'd politely asked him to stop, but he just couldn't hold back on it.

I snapped on him one night, telling him off and that I don't care about the shit his wife gets for him. I then posted online about it asking if I was being a dickhead for feeling that way, and someone happened to run across it, figuring out it was me. That added fuel to the fire.

The thing is, I've been wanting to apologize, but I only feel bad about the way I went about it... I still feel irritated about everything that he's been saying. My apology was basically going to say "I'm sorry for what I said and how I went about it but we probably shouldn't talk much until I get my life together." I can't exactly say that and then meet him for dinner tomorrow. I also feel like it's a shallow apology I'm clearly just making so I can hang with my friends.

What should I do?

>>33210054 (OP)
I won't read requests to think OP's thoughts and make his decisions.

you sound like a loser. be glad you have friends

>>33210054 (OP)
You're not wrong for feeling a certain way, you were wrong for you external reaction due to the feelings
He's also wrong for being a dickhead with no tact
If you want to do this the adult way, do the shallow apology so you can hang out, then do a more genuine and comprehensive one later, the psychology behind doing this makes the other person feel imposed on thus putting you at an advantage

Otherwise if you're feeling spiteful and up for drama, apologize only for your reaction, and then flame him for refusing to listen to you, take your feelings into account, and empathize with you on a deeper emotional level like a friend should have done and ask him for an apology as well.

>>33210144
Right now I am a loser. I wasn't, but my life has absolutely hit a major low since my accident.

>>33210154
Thanks for the thoughts. I'm definitely unsure about what the "adult way" would be.

>>33210180
The adult way to is to apologize even if he's at fault to some extent so everyone can move on the best end can be achieved where everyone profits
It's very much the mature thing to do to put your ego aside and recognize that despite him doing something hurtful, it was(at least to him) out of care and for your benefit

>>33210054 (OP)

Have a heart to heart with him. Apologize for the way you acted but don't stop at an apology. Tell him why you acted the way you did and how what he said made you feel. Be open and honest with him so you both can reach a compromise like adults. Be respectful, be civil, but most importantly be honest.

Stop being a DICK to people and start showing respect

>>33210054 (OP)
>I've had a falling out with a friend we'll call Jerry for about 2-3 months.
Why did you decide to call him Jerry for a few months instead of his name? That sort of thing tends to peeve people