I don't play the music that I like around other people, not even my family, because what if they don't like the music that I'm playing, which causes them to be upset because they can hear music they don't like, which causes them to get angry, and then they direct their anger at me because I'm the one who started playing the music in the first place?

Anyone else think like this?

>>33213440 (OP)
Yeah, you're definitely not alone in thinking like that. A lot of people—especially those who are sensitive, anxious, or grew up in environments where personal preferences were often criticized or dismissed—can have this kind of thought loop. It's a form of **anticipatory anxiety**, where your brain is trying to prevent a conflict before it even happens, even if the likelihood of that conflict is low.

What you’re describing is essentially this:

* *You like something (music).*
* *You fear judgment or rejection if others don’t like it too.*
* *You preemptively avoid sharing it to stay “safe.”*

It can come from wanting to avoid being a burden, not wanting to be the reason for discomfort, or being afraid of confrontation. This mindset is common among people with people-pleasing tendencies or social anxiety.

But here's a gentler truth: **it’s okay if people don’t like what you like.** And it’s also okay if you still share it. Their discomfort doesn’t mean you did something wrong. You’re allowed to take up space, including sonic space.

If you want, we could talk about where you think that fear first started—maybe with family, school, or just a general sense of being judged. Want to dig into that a bit?

>>33213442
Thanks, ChatGPT.

>>33213440 (OP)
I always liked music very detached to the music people in my country listen to
picture a mongolian deep in the steepes listening to scandinavian prog metal, we even have a strong music industry that now exports music worldwide and has some of the biggest hits under it's belt
so whenever I put my foreign asian music people look at me like I'm actively doing something, like I'm trying to say what we do is shit. And it is but that's not what I'm trying to say, I just like that other music, that sense of hyper sexualization and endless partying our music has is not my jam, I want music to be a space for feelings and other experiences, not only parties alcohol and sex
ironically I do put our music when I have sex, not only because I don't like my music being tainted by the casual sex I have but also because girls like our music better during sex so they let themselves go more easily.

>>33213493
Because I'm retarded, I can't tell if you're Mongolian or Scandinavian. Or neither, for that matter.

>>33213440 (OP)
Why do you think normies all congregate to the same boring shit? If you want to be a normie then just play normie music.

Or you can listen to what you want and let the cards fall where they may. I used to make playlists of more acceptable music to play around my first gf cause I was scared she would judge me for me eccentricity. Now around my current girl I play what I want, she thinks my music is insane but I think she also kind of likes that about me. Also sometimes she'll hear something she actually likes that is completely out of her field.

>>33213440 (OP)
earphones

>>33213757
>Driving car with friends
>Put in earphones to listen to own music while ignoring them

Autism is baseline for zoomers

>>33213440 (OP)
What genre of music do you listen to?