I've tried everything.
I've went to the libraries, clubs, communities, different circles, to the gym, to parties, and every time it was becoming more and more clear that when you're an adult, you don't have friends, you have acquaintances. AND IT SUCKS. I don't want a gf (because talking to women annoys me). I don't know where to meet new people and whenever I try to and think that I've finally found someone, they turn non-responsive over time and disappear. And I'm only 21 years old, but this has been the case for almost a year now.

>inb4 college
A bunch of retards, the whole lot of them. I don't want to hang out with degenerates either, because Psalms 1:1.

Is this it? Is this how I'm supposed to live til the end of my days? Or am I just being hysteric and panicking over nothing. Where do I find actually decent people?

what do you want friends for

Take a class or a workshop about something you are interested in learning, like painting or martial arts or photography or music or writing or anything else. Post your stuff online if you like making things. Do things.

>>33213639
hanging out, working out together, going to restaurants, movies, traveling, having fun, talking about whatever, literally anything. But I want it to be irl, not online. I hate that I have no one to keep me company. I invited a guy over to my house the other day and he declined (probably fearing that I might do smth to him, lol).

sorry for the late reply (4chan made me wait 120 seconds, twice in a row, to get a captcha).

>>33213657
I've tried martial arts and music (and chess, and a few more). I can't draw for shit, but ig I'll try to join yet another one

>>33213624 (OP)
I made the best friends of my life in my 30s.

>>33213684
And make effort and take to your class members

You have to make some effort and initiate the conversation and show them that you are interested. A lot of people might not respond but those who are interested back will surely contact you

>>33213657
And talk to random people wherever you go, introduce yourself. You will probably run into the love of your life my man

>>33213624 (OP)
>A bunch of retards, the whole lot of them. I don't want to hang out with degenerates either, because Psalms 1:1.
You're the problem anon. You are an annoying judgemental faggot and no one likes those.

21 is still young enough to form life long bonds with people.

>>33213624 (OP)
This Pepe is me. Saved!

>>33213696
Do tell, if it's not a secret, and how old are you now?

>>33213710
>And talk to random people wherever you go

Won't it come off as... desperate? And needy? I've tried it at the gym when I was 19 and I literally had to switch to another gym, because people found it irritating and I felt awkward afterwards. Since then I keep my mouth shut and don't try to "annoy" people by bothering them.

Bro, literally the easiest time on earth to make friends is between 21 (when everyone can start drinking legally) and 26 (about when couples pair off and start to seclude themselves for the human mating ritual). All you have to do is go where other young people are meeting up and act normally.
>sorry for the late reply (4chan made me wait 120 seconds, twice in a row, to get a captcha).
Sorry, did not realize that 'acting normally' was not in the cards for you.

>>33213729
Here's your second problem aside from being an annoying judgemental faggot, you are also awkward and cringey. No one likes those either.

Funny how the biggest losers are somehow the most judgemental.

>>33213737
I live in a country where the legal age of drinking is 18, and I quit drinking when I was 16 (was lowkey an alcoholic at 15).
>acting normally
Retarded.

>>33213745
You're the one who is quick to jump at conclusions and being judgemental, lol. Everybody has standards and you can't not be judgemental if you have at least some moral values in life and hold up to them.

>>33213769
>You're the one who is quick to jump at conclusions and being judgemental, lol. Everybody has standards and you can't not be judgemental if you have at least some moral values in life and hold up to them.
>You're being jumping to conclusions about me judgemental
>Also I am actually judgemental here is why
>,lol

Yes you are just a low quality person, people don't like to be friends with those.

>>33213624 (OP)
>I don't want a gf (because talking to women annoys me).

This says all I need to know. Look man , friends as an adult is a highly social sport , if you can't handle the opposite gender you're gonna be in for a bad time.

Dude friends I find are circumstantial at best unless you are a winner. And thats the real blackpill about friends as an adult , unless you find other stoners and deadbeats -- nobody likes a charity case. You have to bring something to the table if your personality / charisma is not off the charts.

>>33213717
There's no secret. We all meet dozens of people every day. Statistically, some of them arre going to interest us as people. Make even the slightest effort to get to know them and some (not all) will develop into friends

>>33213669
in adulthood you dont have friends anymore only enemies

>>33213969
Not sure if you're jesting or not, but that's what it feels like desu when the first (and most frequent) questions I get asked are about my career/achievements. I hate the age of careerism

>>33213624 (OP)
Tbh I'm in simmilar boat as you truly. I see you're also a fellow Christian so that's nice.
I suppose friendships are like lottery. Most friends I met were either online or met in random places in high school (a good bud of mine didn't even go to the same class as me, we met by sheer accident in a way).
I suppose focus on people you care about like family members if you have any, or even your pets, but most importantly, know that the Lord is with you and you're not alone.
When you go to work, you could also meet some people there. Life is a gamble, but one can choose their twist and perspective on it. Don't give up hope just yet.

>>33214047
>truly
>so that's nice
>I suppose
>in a way
>I suppose
you are insufferable

Adult friendships do not exist FOR YOU lmao

>>33213624 (OP)
Sanctity and humanity are not essentially opposed , however because of a certain defect in it , you will be alone like Jeremiah and the prophets , screaming the truth and no will listen. But continue, this is the only way to live.

>I don't want to hang out with degenerates either, because Psalms 1:1
That rules out current day Christians... and everyone else

>>33214207
GOT HIS LOSER ASS LMAO

>>33213729
It's not desperate. A lot of people wish they had the courage to talk to others. It takes courage to make the first move and put yourself out there and reach out to people. And even if some people think you're being "desperate" then those people and their thoughts will have zero effect on you and your life. It's better to put yourself out there and succeed 1% of the time then never put yourself out there and get 0%. 1% of a 1000 is 10 people who will change your life for the better if God wills. And you will get more than 1% if you work on yourself.

>>33213715
That's Apu, bro

>>33213624 (OP)
You get to an age where you'd rather go home and take a nap than hang out.