I meet girls online and 100% of the time, I either get blocked, ghosted or just slowly watch conversations die out into nothing. I know I’m doing something wrong, I’m too desperate and emotional. I’m not even necessarily looking for romance, just a sexual connection. Just someone really; I’m so lonely.

How do you get rid of that air of desperation? I can’t stop double texting and wearing every emotion I feel on my sleeve. For fucks sake, I met this girl yesterday and she and I only spoke for an hour but I still miss her even now.

>>33216741 (OP)
What kinda stuff you do that you think scares them off? Also it just seems hard to connect with people online lately anyway. An hour of talking seems pretty cool.

>>33216763
I try not to be too creepy, but I get the sense always that there’s just something about me that’s not good or satisfactory. Like I try to avoid all of the pitfalls of being overbearing and obsessive, but it never seems to work out no matter how much I tip toe past these things.

I think what scares them off is though for example how I’d frequently text while they’re online, just to see if they’d respond when I know they just don’t wanna bother with me and are talking to someone more interesting. I don’t know, sorry if that doesn’t make sense.

>>33216784
I don't think frequent texts would do it, unless they told you to stop or the texts were weird or non stop. Also try not to assume what they are doing cause honestly you can't know and it's no use worrying over it. You don't have to apologize, and yeah your post makes sense no worries.

>>33216741 (OP)
the root cause of nervous energy that puts people off is likely anxiety on your end. address that and chill out in your own head to remedy it. it's probably a longer process than you think and involves being honest with yourself without being mean to yourself, if that makes sense.

>>33216784
I'm confused. What exactly is it you're doing online? You're after a sexual connection, so are you on tinder or some hookup app? Do you have anything else going on in your life or are you just texting or thinking about texting girls all day?

>>33219176
This is probably true, I really struggle with negative self-talk and often find myself just wishing I was better looking or just satisfied with my life. I think my dissatisfaction with everything and just all the shit I’ve been through in my life leads me to chase attention from girls online.

With all that being said though, I still can’t get away from these feelings no matter how much I acknowledge and try to accept myself.

>>33219368
Drifting around anonymous chatrooms, looking for ERP, conversation, sexting, whatever. Just anything.

>>33219737
And I don’t have a lot going on, just working a wagie job, trying to finish my bachelor’s eventually so I can get a career.