this is related to older threads.

if I have a girl doing some admin work for me on a project and I want to ask her out, is there a way to offer her a personal work night as opposed to a team work night? I am thinking something like "we need to finalize these documents, we could do it tomorrow, who do you think we need to include in that team if anyone?"

she likes me on some level but its hard to delineate work and social time as well its hard to get any one on one time to ask her out.

if its her idea to not include others I see that as an easy in to ask for a nonework hang out.

I might be crazy, I might be manipulative. let me know.

Firstly I would avoid relationships at work if you care about your job alot or be prepared to have it awkward all the time.

Secondly if your asking her out make it completely not work related. Mention a new restaurant you want to try and ask her to come with you. She'll likely get the message and if she's interested come along where you can progress a relationship without work being involved. Doing it with work being on the table will give her mixed signals and probably harder to open up

>>33217220
she is miles away in terms of a workspace, I really didn't even know who she was until she approached me. without voluntary collaboration we never interact at work.
so how do I make that jump from the we are on a project together because we both are signaling to one another to actually getting some personal time?

>>33217205 (OP)
>if its her idea to not include others I see that as an easy in to ask for a nonework hang out.

You are coming up with harebrined plans to trick someone into letting down their guard near you. At least have the trust in yourself to wait until your work efforts no longer overlap to reach out separately from work on a personal note

>>33217345
you are right, the dumb part is that is how it started and I used this project as a way to stay in contact. so yeah I am manipulating the situation, I think I just need a very soft "in" to ask.

>>33217354
It's not dumb. It's perfectly normal to be attracted to someone you meet, anywhere. Just don't do the thing that is considered socially unacceptable these days:

pursuing a woman in an enclosed space or mandatory attendance event where she might fear retaliation if she rejects you

>>33217382
I think avoiding "anything considered socially understandable these days" is the hard part. Even noticing a women is unacceptable if she wants to make an issue of it.
So I am just trying to be careful of the how and when though I am 90% sure I'll get a date.

>>33217392
>Even noticing a women is unacceptable if she wants to make an issue of it.

No it's not. You're taking the bait.

The only thing that is unacceptable is assault. Everything else is just embarrassing

>>33217397
I have been in trouble for nothing before. Staring when the girls was directly in front of my desk, look forward and it was staring.

But yeah most girls aren't like that. None the less the powers to be will take the side of the accusor and that is why I am careful.

>>33217205 (OP)
what is the name of the whore in picrelated?

>>33218649
Pic3.jpg
Apparently.

> Miles form her in terms of a work place.
will others see it that way?

get it away from work and keep it away from work.