I am 31 and male. I am actually insecure about sex I think because I have never actually had sex. What I end up doing / thinking about is the vast gap that is likely between my sexual experience(zero) and a typical womans sexual experience. Not saying all women have a ton of sex but women who had a normal trajectory through life have probably had a fair amount of sex. Most people I know had sex when they were around 16 years old. If I date a woman who had a standard / typical trajectory of life, and she is within the age range I want to date(late 20's - early 30's). She likely has been fucking for what is effectively 12-15 years. Could have been many men, one man, whatever. But the vast amount of sexual experience she gained would overshadow mine greatly. So hell yeah I am insecure. I don't want to have sex and be garbage at it but there is no way around it. I think I feel pressure too because men are seen as the horn dogs of our species so it stands out as weird if you are a guy and a virgin. Not sure what can be done. I think women not only find men insecure about sex weird but they find men who have no romantic experience and no sexual experience weird too. Just that vast experience imbalance makes me feel very insecure and I am not sure how to move past that. I am not even upset about how good at sex the men she had sex with were. I am just more concerned that most women have effectively over a decade worth of experience with sex.

>>33219516 (OP)
19 male and virgin here, Think thinking about sex as a technical skill that you get better at by "Grinding" isn't really good or really right, like yeah, you are going to suck at it at first, but if you meet someone who actually cares about you i'd wager they won't mind teaching you the dos and donts as you go, Sex is kinda individual in my inexperienced opinion as what might work for X girl won't work for Y girl because we are humans, generally similar, wildly different in specifics, kinda like how kinks work. If it REALLY bothers you that much i guess you could get a prostitute to "Train"? briefly considered that myself but it sounded so retarded i immediatly scrapped it.

>>33219516 (OP)
I recommend you to ruminate additional 20 years about that topic. Maybe you will finally find an answer.

So why not start? You don't have to talk to these women about the lack of it or tell them the truth. If you are really scared just lie and say it has been a long time. Most don't care but do want it to be enjoyable so use some of what you have watched and try to replicate it.

>>33219516 (OP)
I was terrible at sex the first time (at 26 years old) and great at it the second time (three days later). It genuinely only takes one time to learn.
Well, I'm still awful at doggy style. It's hard when your penis is as small as mine

>>33219516 (OP)
Honestly, anon, if you've made it to the age of 31 without getting laid once, it is quite definitely NEVER going to happen (unless you hire a hooker). So there's no need for you to feel anxious about it.

>>33219516 (OP)
I lost my virginity at 18, and between then and meeting my girlfriend at 23 I had sex maybe 7 times.
Whereas she had a consistent boyfriend and longer lasting flings than I had, prior to her most of my encounters were on off drunken things with no real connection or development/feedback.

Odds are once you find someone who's willing to sleep with you regularly you'll fuck like bunnies, non stop, and you'll pick it up quickly. Until then just focus on working out as cardiovascular health actually plays into it if you last long. (you'll be surprised how long you can last once you start having sex frequently).

Best tip I can give you is to really understand what stimulating a clitoris is like. It is the most reliable way to make a woman consistently cum. Don't rush it, use spit initially (you wouldn't want fast dry strokes on your penis) don't apply too much pressure (unless they are very wet and you've been prepping them for a couple minutes).

Sex isn't that complicated, you pick it up pretty quickly and the novelty dies out soon. After a certain point it becomes more about connecting with a person than being about lust, at least I hope it does for you. The latter is not nearly as fulfilling.

>>33219516 (OP)
A lot of guys who do have sex apparently suck at it too, so don't worry if you suck at it too. Just do whatever feels good, let your bellend lead you, and if she refuses to talk about what she needs or wants, fuck her.

You can just kiss her, turn her on her back keep kissing her, and spread her legs, and thrust a for a few minutes and coom. It is extremely simple. Most womens experience of sex is just laying down. Especially for a first fuck it would be bizarre and honestly off putting if she wanted to do something crazy or ride you reverse cowgirl, or ask you to do something unusual. The dumbest motherfuckers in the world figure it out when they are like 12. You will surprise yourself. If you have an erotic bone in your body (desu maybe unlikely since you are a wizard no offense) you will probably be good at sex within the first month or two of doing it. Especially if you have a good girlfriend and you love each other youll develop your own styles and expectations anyway. Its like dancing but easier. They wont expect their next dance partner to have the same style as the previous

Now this is a topic worth exploring

My friend, don't obsess over sex. There's nothing wrong with being a virgin. If you want to have a sexual relationship, great. I bet out of the 4 billion women. There is someone for you on earth, but you have to make an effect too. Women aren't just going to attract towards you if you don't make an effect. Be more social. Be yourself, ofc, but don't make it weird or uncomfortable.

>>33219516 (OP)
https://youtu.be/lOZqeRUx3xA?feature=shared

>>33220947
>Be yourself, ofc, but don't make it weird or uncomfortable.
so dont be yourself

there's plenty of women who suck at sex despite being huge sluts
you'll be fine

>>33219516 (OP)
I dated a really cool girl once who said it wouldn't bother her. I think most girls would be put off, yes, but this is largely because most girls (on the apps at least) are looking for some casual bullshit and go after a certain type of man. But if you meet someone cool and form a genuine connection (rare), then I feel strongly that they won't care. Don't mention it until it's relevant, and make sure you own it / laugh about it rather than get all weird and insecure about it.