Me and my girlfriend found a starving stray cat while at a family members house and the family member is a hardass who would kick it out and let coyotes it. Ive been feeding her on the back porch while we stay the weekend. She's very sickly and covered in ticks but shes very friendly.

I tell her that if we need to I am going to take this cat home and put her in an isolated room until I can get her to a proper no kill humane society.

She straight up tells me shed rather let the cat die than bring it in her car (mine is back at home) because of her phobia of bugs. We have 3 cats so I couldnt believe this. Luckily it seems like we will probably be able to get the cat to a shelter tomorrow without needing her car but I could not believe what I was hearing.

What should I do? I just moved in with her two weeks ago but this would have been a dealbreaker if it happened early on in our relationship. I'm not really sure how to approach a conversation or if I can change her mind on this. We even talked about fostering cats before this happened and I guess she didnt understand that most cats needing foster care are going to have fleas/ticks/worms of some sort.

>>33220930 (OP)
borderline issue, I can see both sides being valid. The greater issue here is you considering ending the entire relationship over something in a gray area like this; must not be a very good relationship then. Maybe you actually want to end it.

>>33220930 (OP)
you seem more like a crazy cat man than her being a cold woman without empathy. Im not saying I dont agree with your actions more, but not wanting a random cat with ticks in your car is extremely reasonable. you actually sound like a libtard advocating for african AIDS patient migration

>>33220930 (OP)
>I just moved in with her two weeks
It hasn't been long. You might even be able to ger your old place back. If it was a dealbreaker then, it still is one now. It's also better to find out she is like this now than after three years. Also, she probably thinks that all foster cats are just cute unwanted kittens not bug riddled messes like you said. She's probably thinking of those cats you temporarily home from the shelter to ease overcrowding, not literal strays like you want to save.

If it feels wrong, it's wrong. Get out.

>>33221006
Im not considering ending the relationship at all, I would have if it was only a month in, at this phase absolutely not though.

>>33221024
>this would have been a dealbreaker if it happened early on in our relationship
Not sure why you're lying, it's very clearly still a dealbreaker if it bothers you this much
She's right though
From her side, stray cats can have serious diseases not only affecting you and her, but your cats as well
Would it be worth all of your cats dying or becoming terminal because you wanted to ego her on this?
Do you not care about your own health or hers?

However knowledgeable you are, are you a professional? Do you have the means to diagnose on the spot whether or not that cat poses a risk?
If you really cared about her you would meet her in the middle and immediately take that cat to see if anythings wrong, and once cleared bring it back, totally assuaging her of her concerns while also making her feel heard and validated

>>33220930 (OP)
This is sad. Not much you can do beside removing the ticks. I'm not sure I'd want to risk it either, Lyme disease and all.

>>33220930 (OP)
What if your kid had a bug on them? Would she abandon them?