Anonymous
6/15/2025, 7:48:45 AM No.33221956
I know a lot of people who literally go through the first year without talking to anyone, and I really don’t think I could handle that.
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Any advice for the first day of uni? - /adv/ (#33221956) [Archived: 1658 hours ago]
Anonymous
6/15/2025, 7:56:16 AM No.33221972
so talk to people! its so easy!
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Anonymous
6/15/2025, 9:09:23 AM No.33222146
>>33221972
seconding this! Please, please do this any you'll avoid so many problems (loneliness, getting lost on the way to class, forgetting about assignments/tests, no people to post about if you're someone that posts, etc).
It's also crucial because when you first get there, so many people will be open to socializing. They don't know you. They don't know who you are or how you're like (beyond how you look), so how can they deem you're incompatible as friends or whatever? You have the right idea of not not talking to anyone
Also visit your class buildings if you want a day or two before classes begin
seconding this! Please, please do this any you'll avoid so many problems (loneliness, getting lost on the way to class, forgetting about assignments/tests, no people to post about if you're someone that posts, etc).
It's also crucial because when you first get there, so many people will be open to socializing. They don't know you. They don't know who you are or how you're like (beyond how you look), so how can they deem you're incompatible as friends or whatever? You have the right idea of not not talking to anyone
Also visit your class buildings if you want a day or two before classes begin
Anonymous
6/15/2025, 9:37:11 AM No.33222185
>>33221956 (OP)
I'm someone that went to uni, spoke to no one, and spiralled so hard due to depression (wasn't CAUSED by talking to no one, but that made it worse) that it affected my grades and I had to leave.
My advice is join societies. You don't have to attend regularly, you don't even have to care much about the club's premise, but when I finally made friends before leaving it was because I showed up to 1 (one) society, the people there were friendly, and I ended up with an entire friend group from it. They're inherently social places where everyone is there for the same thing so it's much, much easier to both approach people and be approached. The good ones will have their regular members immediately approach you when they notice you're new.
Also talk to people in, just before, and just after lectures. Crack a joke about something you know most people agree with ("Will he ever get on with it? haha" for the lecturer you know most people regard as being too slow), ask someone "can I sit here" before sitting down, borrow a pen, ask someone a question about something that was just taught, etc. These are all really small introductions that will likely lead to nothing in particular but it'll make sure people recognise you (and thus feel more comfortable talking to you in the future) and puts your foot in the door to allow both you and the person you're talking to segue into further conversation if you really want to.
I'm someone that went to uni, spoke to no one, and spiralled so hard due to depression (wasn't CAUSED by talking to no one, but that made it worse) that it affected my grades and I had to leave.
My advice is join societies. You don't have to attend regularly, you don't even have to care much about the club's premise, but when I finally made friends before leaving it was because I showed up to 1 (one) society, the people there were friendly, and I ended up with an entire friend group from it. They're inherently social places where everyone is there for the same thing so it's much, much easier to both approach people and be approached. The good ones will have their regular members immediately approach you when they notice you're new.
Also talk to people in, just before, and just after lectures. Crack a joke about something you know most people agree with ("Will he ever get on with it? haha" for the lecturer you know most people regard as being too slow), ask someone "can I sit here" before sitting down, borrow a pen, ask someone a question about something that was just taught, etc. These are all really small introductions that will likely lead to nothing in particular but it'll make sure people recognise you (and thus feel more comfortable talking to you in the future) and puts your foot in the door to allow both you and the person you're talking to segue into further conversation if you really want to.
Anonymous
6/15/2025, 11:15:05 AM No.33222358
Sounds strange but wear a band t-shirt if you have one. It's an easy opener for talkative people and helped me make likeminded friends quickly in my first year.
Also, join some societies.
Also, join some societies.
Anonymous
6/15/2025, 12:40:58 PM No.33222578
>>33221956 (OP)
Remember this - if you're alone, lonely and homesick, SO IS EVERYONE ELSE YOU'LL MEET. You will never in your life find yourself among people eager to meet and connect with you.
Say hello to the person next to you in every class, to neighbors in the residence halls, to people on lines (There will be a lot of lines), to people in the dining hall or snack bar.
Remember this - if you're alone, lonely and homesick, SO IS EVERYONE ELSE YOU'LL MEET. You will never in your life find yourself among people eager to meet and connect with you.
Say hello to the person next to you in every class, to neighbors in the residence halls, to people on lines (There will be a lot of lines), to people in the dining hall or snack bar.
Anonymous
6/15/2025, 1:14:18 PM No.33222661
>>33221956 (OP)
That was basically me due to social anxiety but in retrospect everyone is very eager to talk and socialise in the first two weeks, its the easiest time to meet people. Think of it as levelling up your meeting people skill and introducing yourself. And drink of course. I couldnt drink first semester due to medicine, worst impact of my life. Also learn how to get peoples social media acc and learn texting game. Join a society that interests you and go to their social events, especially drinking ones
That was basically me due to social anxiety but in retrospect everyone is very eager to talk and socialise in the first two weeks, its the easiest time to meet people. Think of it as levelling up your meeting people skill and introducing yourself. And drink of course. I couldnt drink first semester due to medicine, worst impact of my life. Also learn how to get peoples social media acc and learn texting game. Join a society that interests you and go to their social events, especially drinking ones
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Anonymous
6/15/2025, 9:00:37 PM No.33224187
>>33222661
IME people don't care if (You) actually drink yourself, you just need to be explicitly fine with going to events where everyone else is drinking.
IME people don't care if (You) actually drink yourself, you just need to be explicitly fine with going to events where everyone else is drinking.
Anonymous
6/15/2025, 9:03:14 PM No.33224198
TALK TO PEOPLE PLEASE
this is probably the last chance you will have to make irl friends and it only goes downhill after that
this is probably the last chance you will have to make irl friends and it only goes downhill after that
Anonymous
6/15/2025, 9:23:03 PM No.33224266
>>33221956 (OP)
I went to uni after spending 16-19 not talking to anyone (I resat a year). I had had no friends and my head would get filled with an odd fog of panic whenever I had to speak to someone. I knew that I couldn't stand another year of this. I knew that the pain of not talking to anyone had now begun to outweigh my fear of fucking up socialising.
My first piece of advice is that >>33221972 is unironically, literally, sincerely correct. Have you ever done a zip wire before? Riding a zip wire is easy as fuck. You literally don't do anything. All you have to do is slip off the ledge. But slipping off the ledge is scary as fuck. That's what talking to people in your first month of uni was like for me, and it might be like that for you too.
My second piece of advice is that you're going to have so, so, so many chances to talk to people. Don't beat yourself up if you end up missing a few chances in your first day or week. It'll probably happen, and that's normal! You'll be tired from moving into your new accommodation on top of everything else. Keep trying to talk to people ofc, but don't worry if you miss some. I missed a bunch in my first week but ended up making friends at my anime society.
My third piece of advice is not to avoid potential friends just because you heard from 4chan that it's cringe. For example.......I made my first circle of friends in anime society. As another example, a bunch of my friends ended up being the sort of people 4chan had taught me to avoid -- dyed-hair feminist types. They were good people.
Your first six months at uni are basically free reign to socially acceptably talk to complete strangers, but honestly it's very easy to start socialising with strangers even after that. Most of my friends come from later in uni.
I went to uni after spending 16-19 not talking to anyone (I resat a year). I had had no friends and my head would get filled with an odd fog of panic whenever I had to speak to someone. I knew that I couldn't stand another year of this. I knew that the pain of not talking to anyone had now begun to outweigh my fear of fucking up socialising.
My first piece of advice is that >>33221972 is unironically, literally, sincerely correct. Have you ever done a zip wire before? Riding a zip wire is easy as fuck. You literally don't do anything. All you have to do is slip off the ledge. But slipping off the ledge is scary as fuck. That's what talking to people in your first month of uni was like for me, and it might be like that for you too.
My second piece of advice is that you're going to have so, so, so many chances to talk to people. Don't beat yourself up if you end up missing a few chances in your first day or week. It'll probably happen, and that's normal! You'll be tired from moving into your new accommodation on top of everything else. Keep trying to talk to people ofc, but don't worry if you miss some. I missed a bunch in my first week but ended up making friends at my anime society.
My third piece of advice is not to avoid potential friends just because you heard from 4chan that it's cringe. For example.......I made my first circle of friends in anime society. As another example, a bunch of my friends ended up being the sort of people 4chan had taught me to avoid -- dyed-hair feminist types. They were good people.
Your first six months at uni are basically free reign to socially acceptably talk to complete strangers, but honestly it's very easy to start socialising with strangers even after that. Most of my friends come from later in uni.
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Anonymous
6/15/2025, 9:24:05 PM No.33224269
>>33224266
Oh and lastly >>33222661 is completely right about social media. When I went to uni I had literally no social media accounts whatsoever and thought they were unnecessary. But it turns out it's just an easy way to stay in contact with people. Get the basic social medias if you don't have them.
Oh and lastly >>33222661 is completely right about social media. When I went to uni I had literally no social media accounts whatsoever and thought they were unnecessary. But it turns out it's just an easy way to stay in contact with people. Get the basic social medias if you don't have them.
Anonymous
6/15/2025, 9:24:32 PM No.33224272
go to the club fair and join every single club
Anonymous
6/16/2025, 1:47:49 AM No.33225385
>>33221956 (OP)
Make sure to not miss a single day of the first 2 weeks of uni, that's when groups from. Comment on the lesson when it ends, make jokes, stick around, grab a coffee with other students, chat people up. If you miss those 2 weeks, it's over.
t. didn't talk to a single person in 4 years of uni
Make sure to not miss a single day of the first 2 weeks of uni, that's when groups from. Comment on the lesson when it ends, make jokes, stick around, grab a coffee with other students, chat people up. If you miss those 2 weeks, it's over.
t. didn't talk to a single person in 4 years of uni
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Anonymous
6/16/2025, 1:51:38 AM No.33225402
>>33225385
To add - don't be scared of talking to everyone during the first 2 weeks, everyone else will be lost and friendless just like you so it's the best possible time to strike up conversation and have fun. This gets turned on its head after those first weeks/couple months pass and groups get extremely closed and hostile, at which point making friends by chatting people up at the grocery store becomes easier than befriending fellow students.
To add - don't be scared of talking to everyone during the first 2 weeks, everyone else will be lost and friendless just like you so it's the best possible time to strike up conversation and have fun. This gets turned on its head after those first weeks/couple months pass and groups get extremely closed and hostile, at which point making friends by chatting people up at the grocery store becomes easier than befriending fellow students.