'Winning' a girl back (oneitis) - /adv/ (#33224005) [Archived: 1611 hours ago]

Anonymous
6/15/2025, 8:04:39 PM No.33224005
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I'll keep it short because it's a lot.
>2024
>Meet girl from a different continent online
>Like her a lot but refuse to tell her out of fear of rejection
>Vent to her a lot, half because she's good at giving advice and half to make her think I'm just asking a friend for advice because I want to extinguish my feelings for her to not be disappointed
>We don't talk for a while (she's busy with school and life)
>Fast forward to 2025
>She's back and we call
>She has a boyfriend now
>Think 'sucks but I suppose I'll have to move on'
>She drops the 'I used to like you' nuke
>Freak out inside and hate my past self for not being direct
>Joke about it and hope it doesn't get too awkward
>She starts flirting with me lightly
>She keeps bringing up the past, how she thought I was cute and asking what I would've done if I knew she had liked me
>Tell her I would've flown to her country
>She says she would've waited for me
>Before we wrap up she asks when I can call next
A part of me tells me there's a chance but we all know happy endings come few and far between. What do you think, /adv/?
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Anonymous
6/15/2025, 8:06:30 PM No.33224010
>>33224005 (OP)
She wants to cheat on her bf with you. She's bored with her life. We'll probably see you on the news killed or in jail
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Anonymous
6/15/2025, 8:58:25 PM No.33224181
>>33224005 (OP)
Yeah she either wants to cheat with you or she's tired of her current bf and will dump him for you.

If you wanna be a bit more respectful, just wait until she breaks up with him or something
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Anonymous
6/15/2025, 9:06:25 PM No.33224203
>>33224181
You're as dumb as op.
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Anonymous
6/15/2025, 9:08:37 PM No.33224211
>>33224203
Why :(
Anonymous
6/15/2025, 9:11:43 PM No.33224225
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>>33224010
>>33224181
As sad as that is to read, you two are probably right.
I can promise you that I wouldn't do anything with her while she was still locked in to a relationship. Just feels wrong. I am of course hoping she ends said relationship, though.
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Anonymous
6/15/2025, 9:37:38 PM No.33224320
>>33224225
Still wouldnt really want to be with a relationship hopper personally
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Anonymous
6/15/2025, 10:05:22 PM No.33224400
>>33224320
How can we be so sure she'll always be that way, though?
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Anonymous
6/15/2025, 10:56:16 PM No.33224559
>>33224181
If she cheats with you, she'll cheat on you
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Anonymous
6/15/2025, 10:57:32 PM No.33224570
>>33224400
What makes you think she'll change? When people show you their true nature, believe them.
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Anonymous
6/16/2025, 8:52:12 AM No.33227381
>>33224570
>What makes you think she'll change?
She seems really genuine. That's all I have to go off, though.
>When people show you their true nature, believe them.
I know but how can we be so sure she wants to cheat instead of playing by the rules? Maybe she's just hinting at things to come? I dunno.
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Anonymous
6/16/2025, 9:14:48 AM No.33227448
>>33227381
>I know but how can we be so sure she wants to cheat instead of playing by the rules? Maybe she's just hinting at things to come? I dunno.
She's already emotionally cheating
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Anonymous
6/16/2025, 10:13:18 AM No.33227603
>>33227448
this
Anonymous
6/16/2025, 10:21:09 AM No.33227623
billions of women and you're stuck on a whore
Anonymous
6/16/2025, 9:13:06 PM No.33229769
>>33224559
This
>>33227381
>She seems really genuine
And you seem really niave.
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Anonymous
6/16/2025, 9:40:31 PM No.33229857
>>33229769
>And you seem really niave.
Being young dumb and loveless will do that to me, I suppose.
Anonymous
6/17/2025, 2:46:34 AM No.33231770
>>33224005 (OP)
Either

a) Tell her that what you're doing isn't appropriate and that she should message you if/when she's single.

Or

B) Go along with it in the hopes of fucking someone willing to cheat on their bf

a) is the moral choice, b) is the path of least resistance. Realistically I would say there is no point, she's so far away that you're better off focussing on other things. She's a fantasy.
Anonymous
6/17/2025, 2:48:34 AM No.33231782
>>33224005 (OP)
You've never met her, she stopped talking to you once already and she entertains other men while in a relationship.

She's not the one.
Anonymous
6/17/2025, 3:55:06 AM No.33232086
>>33224005 (OP)
if she was the one you wouldn't have to "win her back". She sounds like a hoe bored with her life like
>>33224010
said. The sooner you move on the better.
also
>>33224559
Anonymous
6/17/2025, 2:44:34 PM No.33233615
>>33224005 (OP)
She wants money OP. Just wait and once you are really thirsty and willing to do anything she'll ask. That bf is not going anywhere. I hope you people grow out of this online love shit from around the world.