>friends gf introduces me to her best friend
>immediate chemistry, dates are 10/10
>sex is amazing, she said it's 'like a drug' with me and we've fucked minimum 4 times every date so far
>also get on really well and have fun/silly jokes together
>she told her parents about me and it seems like more than just sex

BUT she replies to my texts like 12-24hrs later which, to me, communicates that she doesn't give a fuck. She said something about other guys being "needy", so I guess maybe this is just her way of doing things, but I feel like she's ignoring me all day every day and it's getting old.

So now for my question - she's away seeing family for 2 weeks and I dunno what to do. Should I:

1. Stop worrying about texting, just mirror her and match the slow replies
2. Ask to talk on the phone instead
3. Tell her to have fun and I'll text her a few days before our next date (planned for two weeks from now)

How to proceed?

Also I think it's relevant - she's very attractive/confident and could date pretty much whoever she wants

This is adding to my paranoia, I feel like 'just another guy' to her and therefore unimportant, despite the fact that she's showered me with compliments about my appearance, personality and performance in bed

Am I just insecure?

I think I need to just detach a little and let it be. I can't control what she does or how she behaves, and if she likes me it'll work out, right?

>>33224967 (OP)
>>33225006
I've never dated but if I were in your position I'd just do 3.
>I think I need to just detach a little and let it be. I can't control what she does or how she behaves, and if she likes me it'll work out, right?
Yes

>>33224967 (OP)
Dude youre becoming the kind of guy that she has specifically told you she doesnt like. You are recognizing that, so dont act emotionally. If youre having a good time with her irl, then enjoy that and dont let the texting shit get to you. Just relax please. Control your emotions or she'll be gone in a second.

>>33225032
Thanks anon

She said she's down to talk on the phone so I'll do that and then give her space I think

I love going on dates and meeting new people, but the whole texting thing just fries my brain every time. They're either too keen and it feels suffocating, or they're too slow and you feel ignored.

>>33225066
Yes exactly. Thanks. I'm glad she said about other guys being needy otherwise I'd have sperg'd out by now or just ended it

>>33225066
>it's not her fault it's ze guyz
Yeah this kind of girl will take a while to fix, she hates all men for being simps or something, I mean if you're going to be loved then it means you are going to be cared for, and yet she already told her family about it? Good luck anon, you're gonna need it.

>>33225078
Its okay man. It would drive me insane too. But you need to let her become the clingy one, not the other way around. Dating today is fucking shitty.

>>33225136
Yeah, you can say that again... I'll get her on the phone, have a little flirt and then just forget texting for now. I can't be bothered with it. I'll let her initiate it she wants to chat

Thanks for your replies btw

>>33225006
>she's showered me with compliments about my appearance, personality and performance in bed
he fell for it
KEK
see you at the gym bro

>>33224967 (OP)
>BUT she replies to my texts like 12-24hrs later
This is definitely abnormal but she might just be different. Whatever you do just do not become needy.

>>33224967 (OP)
She explicitly said she doesn't like needy guys and here you are freaking out about how she doesn't text back for 12-24 hours and is going to visit family for 2 weeks. It's a battle of who cares the most. She might actually like you but she wants to subconsciously chase you. Guys that chase her give her the ick.

I'd just mirror her energy and text her just like she does you but keep the texts to setting up an IRL date. While she is on her trip, I wouldn't text her until she texts you. She might not text you and that's fine.

These are the type of girls that if they want to hang out with you, she will let you know. I can almost guarantee you if that if you don't text her again after she texts you, she will start asking where you went, assuming she actually likes you.

I used to see a girl like this, always complained about how guys she previously saw would start asking, "Where you at?" "What you doing?" and overall being needy. It annoyed her. She actually liked that I wouldn't text her for days at a time she started asking me, "Why don't you text me?". She was used to people giving her princess treatment and I was the complete opposite. It was refreshing for her.

You have to show her you care less than she does.

>>33224967 (OP)
no she's shit testing you

continue to text every day or couple days and having to wait for her to respond

for whatever stupid reason she thinks she can tell something about guys if they triggered by boundaries around texting

if you change anything or seethe or act needy you kill the attraction

>>33225006
>Am I just insecure?
Yes.

>>33224967 (OP)
>Ask to talk on the phone instead
But try that.

>>33224967 (OP)
>she replies to my texts like 12-24hrs later
That's rough. She clearly only sees you as a fuckbuddy, she doesn't want anything serious or to settle down with you

>>33225006
Attractive people don’t text Becuase they actually have options and good lives.
Texting is what ugly and poor people do to hedge their bets..
Also,don’t be surprised if she tells everyone
>you are like a drug.
The first 4 months. (Maybe not but common).
> very attractive/confident and could date pretty much whoever she wants
You are in the big leagues for now.
Go be your own high worth individual while she is gone, go to a play, go to a show, hang out with friends be busy, have stories and pics tell when she comes back And suddenly you won’t have time / desire to reply to texts either.
.
./advice
This is sort of tragic comedy to me Becuase I already know when you break up (and you will) you will do nothing but miss her and wonder why the fuck you cared about her not texting when she fucked you 4 times every date and is hot and be filled with regret

>>33227793
Most guys cannot fathom what it’s like to be a woman in 2025 Its hilarious, but it’s also kinda sad. Let's imagine one single day in the average woman's life. Her day commences in the haze of whatever free drugs and booze she imbibed, boofed and snorted the previous day. She can barely make out all the notifications from thirsty dudes literally from all over the world.
There's a vast underclass of swarthy men stretching from here to bumfuck Bangladesh who like, comment and follow a girl like this, and she needn't ever interact with them. Are these men even real? Not to her, no. Plus, in all likelihood she is waking up next to one or several sleeping studs, the ones who the night before gaped and glazed our girl until their rigorous fuckings broke her fickle female reality and she suddenly saw before her the roastie dimension: a yonic realm where tesseracts of turgid, tumescent phalluses are powered by the aggregated orgasmic energies of all women worldwide who in that same moment shared delivery to this phantasmic space by way of the same sort of jackhammering fuckfest induced hallucinations.
She'd have forgotten her name, number systems and become psychically disembodied somewhere during the double penetrations. But after enough rest, our girl will be ready to text one of her orbiters for coffee, another for lunch, one lucky guy to go shopping with and another for transportation to dinner. Time with girlfriends, also financed by another doting beta, blends seemlessly into another libidinous evening dank with debauchery. Sometimes she'll have time to shower, other times she can purchase one of many commercially available "feminine wipes" to "clean" the cum and smegma and who knows what Chad-deposited detritus sprayed and smashed into her dangly clam meat. And after a few judicious wipes of her snatch, she'll be ready to mount the next stallion rounding the turn of the Cock Carousel.

>>33225161
Don't contact her at all. Do not CALL or text. Stop it. Goddamn, what is it about men that once they get a little pussy they latch on.

I dated someone like this and you will always feel like the needier one and she is doing it on purpose. They even brought me to meet their family multiple times and we did Christmas but they had no trouble dropping me like nothing. Beware she is maintaining that distance on purpose to have control

>>33224967 (OP)
She literally told you what she wants by saying other guys were too needy, what are you confused about, dipshit?

>>33224967 (OP)
Have you talked to her about being exclusive?

>>33227823
>what is it about men that once they get a little pussy they latch on.
take a guess retard

>>33229013
No. Feels a bit much to get all serious on her if texting back <12hrs later gives her the ick

I'll pull back a bit and let her initiate. If it turns out she's banging some other guy then hello gym

>>33228939
Yeah, agreed. Thanks anons the consensus is clear

>>33227820

>>33224967 (OP)
This is why you save sex for marriage

>>33229475
>No. Feels a bit much to get all serious on her if texting back <12hrs later gives her the ick
Well there's your problem. She isn't your girlfriend. She has no loyalty and no obligation to text you back in a timely manner. Stop being a bitch and ask her to be your girlfriend already.

>>33229592
Those days are over

>>33229674
>Ask her to be my gf when we've dated for less than a month l, don't know each other that well and she clearly wants to maintain some distance between us
No. That feels like a desperate lurch forward

>>33229930
To society’s detriment. Just look at this OP. He would not feel so fucking anxious if he had not already given away the greatest incentive for commitment, that being to share the most intimate experience one can have with this woman. It’s gone. Now there is no reason to commit other than OP’s faggot ass is clingy or his blown-out situationship wants to lock down an income.