Today, my best friend proposed to his girlfriend with a cheap silver ring. Not because he's broke (he's just saving up for a house) They won’t have some lavish wedding either, just a small, intimate event with the closest friends and family.

He's tall, green eyed, fit, he could've proposed with a plastic ring and she still would've said yes with tears in her eyes.

And then there's me. My wife rejected me twice because the ring I gave her wasn't "expensive enough." She only said yes after I bought one that leave me in debt for a year. And yes I guess I don't have his looks.

Then again… i find myself resenting her in silence.

I keep finding reasons to feel dissatisfied with her.
Because she wasn’t a virgin.
Because she made me beg with a bank loan just to feel "worthy" of proposing.
Because I gave her everything of me, and I'm still treated like she made me a favor for marrying me.

Seriously, guys… if you only saw the way my friend's fiancée looks at him. Like he’s her entire world. Like nothing else matters.
My wife has never looked at me like that. Not once.

What’s wrong with me?
It’s not like my marriage is a failure. It works. She's loyal. Responsible. Doesn’t cheat, doesn't blow money. It's a functioning marriage.

But next to what my friend has… it feels fake.
Like mine is just the idea of a marriage, a performance.
His looks like love.
Mine looks like a contract.

>>33226646 (OP)
show this post to your wife

>>33226646 (OP)
I won't read larps, especially whiny ones, on an advice board.

>>33226646 (OP)
>Mine looks like a contract.
That basically is what marriage is, and for most people throughout history from rich to poor it was just a business arrangement. Marriage for love is a new american concept. so really your situation is the average one and you shouldnt really be too surprised by it. In addition to this, you should keep in mind that you've been married for years at this point and your friend just got engaged. You are at two totally different stages. You have no idea what could happen to these two in the future. Maybe they have a lot of feel-good chemical bonding but can't deal with the business of marriage and life all that well. Honestly though, all this said, your wife kind of sounds like an entitled bitch and you sound like a passive fag without agency. Maybe you should juice up your marriage somehow. Perhaps start going to the gym and start fingerfucking your wife in risky public locations and act unhinged

>>33226646 (OP)
Why are you marrying her?

>>33226731
*Why did you marry her?

skill issue, my brother is no chad and works a blue collar job but he is a genuinely good person and his gf just proposed to him, no ring at all

>>33226778
This bruh, the woman either loves you for who you are or she doesn't
Pro tip, the woman who doesn't love you but only loves you for what you can do for her will either cheat or divorce you later

>>33226646 (OP)
As the only person in this thread with an actual wife, I am so sorry for the situation you find yourself in. Comparison is the theft of joy. Do not look at what he has with envy for it will only make you bitter. Instead take this as a chance to improve your own situation. You have a wife who loves you, cherish that. If you want her to look at you with the romantic eyes of a young lover, treat her like a new love and lavish her in the affection you wish she gave you. Take her on dates, make her food, eat her pussy out till she faints, look her in the eyes and tell her you love her. She will reciprocate in time.

>Because she wasn’t a virgin.
I swear to god it is always people obsessed with a woman's virginity that fuck up their relationships. Why do you people want a virgin?! Virgins don't suck dick, virgins can't cum from penetration, you think a girl stays a virgin if she has a sex drive? No! she makes the same mistake every god damned teenager makes and mistakes lust for love and fucked someone who ended up a jerk. You know what that means for you? When you start dating and you AREN'T a jerk AND you satisfy her lust, she won't go looking at other people thinking what if. She will know Chad Thundercock might have a big dick but he fucks like a rabbit and won't remember her birthday.

You know why your friend has a better marriage? He deserves a better marriage. Become more like him and less like yourself.

>>33226818
When OP says he is upset that his wife is not a virgin, the reader is supposed to pick up on the fact she has an extensive and disagreeable sexual history. OP cannot outright say this though.

>>33226818
>You have a wife who loves you
*r money

Genuinely the first rejection should have been your sign because she turned down the opportunity for a lifetime with you (twice) because "the ring wasn't good enough."

Meaning
1) she didn't want you that bad
2) she wanted you but knew you would grovel back with a better ring, so she in a way has an upper hand over you

If it functions, it's tricky because on one hand, why divorce? But also it's completely acceptable to want sincerity.

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>>33226950
Sorry for not replying right now, guys. I'm exhausted, i worked all day and honestly, I'm feeling pretty low. Im just not in the right headspace. I need a nap and some time to clear my mind.
If the thread doesn't get pruned, I'll respond tomorrow and read through all your posts.
I appreciate you took time to hear me out but right now, I've got nothing left in the tank. I hope you understand.

>>33226950
this, what the fuck kind of simp shit is this? why would you continue engaging with a superficial hoe after that? you genuinely deserve all your misery OP

Because it WAS a contract. She literally said she would only invest if you if you invested X in her. Why are you deluding yourself otherwise?

I'm not even saying there's anything wrong with that--just with you for being stupid.

>>33227044
you don't need energy unless you're making up a story

it takes literally no energy to just say why you like her

Beyond blackpilling, if you were chad you could give her a rock covered in glitter and she’d let you fuck her right then and there

Unbelievable still being this bluepillers when the shit is happening to you

>>33227711
bluepillers wouldn't tell you to continue a relationship after she complains about the ring

>>33226646 (OP)
>My wife rejected me twice because the ring I gave her wasn't "expensive enough."

>>33227711
I've been through this and currently in it. You have to stop caring and it helps to have a side chick or just stripper attention to keep your head straight. This can work for you too.

>>33226818
What's with this totally polarized cope? I took a woman's virginity and it did not take long for it to turn into regular and great sex, just as good as any I had with women with a "past".

>>33226646 (OP)
>My wife rejected me twice because the ring I gave her wasn't "expensive enough."
Why the FUCK did you marry her, anon?!

>>33228604
Probably out of fear of being alone. She's probably ugly as fuck too.

>>33226646 (OP)
leave your wife she sounds like a cunt
shit i'm resenting her now too

>>33226646 (OP)
>It works.
LOL as far as you know

>>33226646 (OP)
I proposed my wife with a cheap ring. Years later she resented that.

Women will always compare and her "friends" will tell her that if a man doesn't spend money on her is because the man doesn't love her.

You cannot escape that.

About your marriage being "fake". The flame of love just change, it isn't really hot anymore but it is still there. Just focus on making some sparks instead.

We had some issues previously. Our marriage was becoming to monotonous, we of course love each other but we were bored. We had a dead bedroom too. Even going to the beach on vacation was not working for fucking each other.

One day, I just decided to take her on a date, nothing too fancy but still a date. We fucked each other like rabbits. Sometimes, it is not having everything but actually putting some effort of doing something nice.

>>33226950
Tldr she's for the streets, OP.

>>33226843
>OP cannot outright say this though.

There some rule against it on this board? Because there is a big difference between 'I had a couple boyfriends before you' and 'I spent 3 years as a prostitute NBD'. If you read other posts on this board you would think people can't tell the difference between the two.

>>33227044
Smart, it can be hard to see a bright future when you don't have the strength to lift your head.

>>33228421
In this modern era of "if it isn't perfect it drop it and find something that is" I always encourage people to work on their love instead of just leaving for the next thing. That said, I REALLY hate the obsession with virginity that plagues certain modern subcultures. Every justification for it just stems back to regressive Islamic sexism. It was late and I kind of just went on a rant with no clear goal.