Hello, I have never been in a relationship before and I have been seeing this girl for two years and I have made many improvements when it comes to dealing with her and changing myself to be better for her but her biggest complaint is that I am emotionally detached from her even though I am present physically or through the phone. It's a long distance relationship currently and I live in the middle east and she's American. Her father passed away two years ago and she loved him very much and she is still hurt. I forgot about Father's Day because we don't celebrate that here and I am terrible with occasions and I didn't realize she was sad about it even though she vented to me about something to do with her father and family in the morning and now I make a point to listen and be there. But unless she tells me, I have a hard time reading her. I am really bad at all this. And she says she wants to break up every three weeks. And she goes nuclear every three weeks and says some bad stuff.

We are very wonderful otherwise and we are good to each in many ways.

Is this a normal problem that a lot of men suffer from or am I just especially bad? I give this girl my time and attention and money and I am really trying to be better but I don't know what to do and I need help and I can't afford couples therapy.

Please help me. I am very sad because I really love her and she loves me and I want to be the best man for her. Please help.

Help please

Please help me.

>>33229427
>>33229420
ooof, awkward

>>33228589 (OP)
You need to communicate with her and she needs to communicate with you. Girls expect men to read them.

>>33228589 (OP)
>And she says she wants to break up every three weeks. And she goes nuclear every three weeks and says some bad stuff.
this is not normal. but yes proabbly most guys have dated girls who do this.
heres how you comfort foid:
>hug
>dont say anything except "its okay babe, IM here for you"
>smooch her forehead
>keep hugging her
>take her for ice cream (healthy food for women unironically)

>>33230330
Not bad advice.

>>33230281
And men have been misinterpreting women since forever.

>>33228589 (OP)
just let her vent for a bit and give her feel-good kisses on the cheek when it's over
the rest will follow