I'm going for a sports tournament in the next months with a bunch of other people in another country. Our male and female teams are training together because there are only few male players in our team - I was only called by our coach to compete a week before the deadline for the registration of new players closed off. I started playing this sport only last year and I'm honestly a bit fat (28,5 BMI). We are amateur, but the tournament is very special for all of us.

A few days ago, we had a big training session with lots of people, including invited players from other amateur teams. I was sitting by and watching the practice match between our men's team and our women's team (I was taking turns in and out of the game with another guy) when one of the girls from our women's team, who was doing the same, sat next to me and started a conversation. She asked me about my personal life at the surface level, wanting to know me. I used my poor social skills to my best. She asked my what I'm going to study at uni and I asked what she worked with, I got to know when and why she started playing this sport, and stuff like that.

Yesterday we trained again, but I couldn't even manage to say hi to her. I mostly avoid women, even the ones on our team, because I'm afraid of causing bad impressions on them. And I know this only makes matters worse. I'm more comfortable with the boys but I still can't manage to be super interesting among our group. I guess I lack the social skills. Still, I wished I has the courage to talk more to the girls, because I know this will make our acquaintanceship better. After all, we will be spending a couple of weeks together for the tournament.

I would advice on how to simply act naturally with the girls. I might or not have trauma with girls, I really don't know, but I want to overcome this fear of women I have. Also, should I just say hi to that girl next time we have practice?

>>33229636 (OP)
Just pretend they are smaller, weaker, dumber, more emotional men

>>33229663
Sorry, I'm not gay.

>>33229636 (OP)
I won't read this FAQ thread. Indeed, OP will never solve his problem because he is a cowardly, basement-dwelling, perpetually-online, subhuman moron who cannot use the archive, and women find that unattractive.

>>33229738
If you won't read my post, then gtfo. This is an advice board, not fucking /b/.

>>33229636 (OP)
Talking to men and women doesn't have toooo much of a difference just be how you actually are, the only advice I can really think of is try to not make immature jokes and be a little more polite.

When I (a woman) talk to my guy friends I find myself able to let loose a bit and act a bit dumber with them. With my girl friends I'm not afraid to be more emotional.

I noticed it too with my guy friends, with eachother they can be pretty insane, but if the group has girls in it they'll be more tame. Unless they're very close with said girl then they're fine doing whatever.

I think whenever you'll become friends with a girl because you have similar interests and like to hang out, you won't even be thinking about all this anymore as it comes naturally.

>>33229777
>I think whenever you'll become friends with a girl because you have similar interests and like to hang out, you won't even be thinking about all this anymore as it comes naturally.
Hopefully this will happen. My problem is that I get so anxious when I talk to women, sometimes I stutter when talking to one.

>>33229805
It's okay, starting out will be difficult, but it's truly something you have to overcome by simply doing it.
When I was younger I was shy about talking to guys too, since I was bullied as a kid. But when I would find ones with similar hobbies it got easier.

But honestly I don't think the stuttering really matters to most people? I only ever saw kids or immature retards online use it to make fun of someone, in that case you'll just know to not waste your time with that person.

But yes do try and say hi to her again! It sucks but there's no other way you really just gotta start.

>>33229680
Being afraid of women is pretty gay

>>33229872
the gays are women's best friends, if u want to be a troll be better at it

Bump.

>>33229636 (OP)
You have to abandon all hope of ever being romantically involved with women. Just treat them like men or coworkers. Since you aren't going to romantically pursue them, you have no reason to be scared of anything. Talk to them normally.
>>33229636 (OP)
>Also, should I just say hi to that girl next time we have practice?
Do it.