Rate my wedding vows

1/2

I can't promise that you'll love me madly, like you did your first love.
I won’t stir in you that desperate, aching desire, the kind of passion that warms the lower belly with nothing but heat.

And I won't lie to myself by thinking I could ever make you feel that way about me. I have known you since we were children, I know you never saw me as a man.

Love, like attraction, isn't meritocratic. It isn't earned.
It’s nepotistic. Arbitrary.
It's not given to those who deserve it, it's handed out on a whim to those we like.
A man who tries to win the unrequited love of a woman through actions and sacrifice, always ends up hearing the same thing
"I never asked you to do that."

I'm not that man.
I'm not the man you dreamed of marrying when you were a little girl imagining your perfect prince.
And I don't even think it’s worth trying to become like him because I don't want to lose myself to play your fantasy of a man I cannot be.

I've seen real love.
And I know with bitter certainty that you're not capable of feeling that for me.
I will never be able to awaken that in a woman like you.

Maybe you'll leave me. Maybe without a word.
But while you're still by my side and so long as you don't cheat on me. I swear to you this;
You will never be alone.

>>33232369

2/2

Your brothers and sisters will start their own families.
Your friends will drift away, swallowed by the distance of the years.
Your parents will fall in the eternal sleep.
Even our children if we have any will one day leave to build their lives far from us.
And slowly, one by one, the people in your world will fade.

But I will still be there for you.
Even when you grow old.
Even when your beauty fades.
Even if an accident disfigures your face.
Even if Alzheimer’s steals your memory, and you look at me like a stranger, just like what happened to your grandparents…
I will still be there, holding your hand, caring for you until your final breath.
And I will never be ashamed to say: "She’s my wife."

Even if you gain weight.
Even if you become fragile, clumsy, dependent and I have to clean you after bathroom.
I will never see you as a burden.
I will never think: "She's no longer a human."
Because none of that will matter.
All that will matter is your happiness.
Keeping you safe.
Loving you

And I swear to you, I will never, ever betray you.

Forgive me for not being able to awaken in you a love that transcends soul and flesh.
But at least I offer you one thing no one else ever will without condition:
To stand by your side until the end.
Even if we don't love each other.
Even if you never love me.

In good times and bad.
Until the day you no longer exist on this earth.

I dunno man. Really saying you don't love your wife in your wedding vows?

>>33232392
I dont want to elaborate into details, but the truth is she and I aren't particularly close. It's a marriage based more on longterm benefit for both of us, and for our families.

>>33232366 (OP)
You'll both cheat on each other many such cases

>>33232366 (OP)
I won't read that tsunami of whatever it is, on an advice board. I'm not your secretary/editor.

>>33232427
I think your perspective of looking at your relationship as transactional influences the depth of your passion for someone you'll be spending your life with.

>filibuster at the altar

unconscionable!

Ok, I read your wall of text, and all I can say is I REALLY hope this is a bait thread, because holy fuck are you pathetic if this is real.

The tone of what you’ve written is brutally self-debasing and filled with resignation, as if you’re entering into the marriage already feeling unloved or unwanted. The point of vows is to affirm a deep bond or express hope and commitment. These vows suggest that your partner doesn’t and perhaps can’t truly love you, and that you’ve accepted a role as a sort of loyal caretaker despite that. That's not romantic, it's painful. Its also unfair to you and puts your fiance in a very negative light as someone just using you.

Wedding vows are not the place for bitterness, or self-pity, or emotional martyrdom. They’re meant to reflect mutual love, shared dreams, and the willingness to build a life together. Even if you're trying to express unconditional devotion, the way this is framed makes it sound like a one-sided arrangement born out of sadness and low self-worth. That’s not a foundation you should ever willingly stand on, especially not in front of all the people who love and support you.

I know you meant to offer something raw and meaningful. But I truly believe there’s a way to speak from the heart that honors your feelings without positioning yourself as undeserving or unloved. You deserve a relationship grounded in mutual joy and respect and your vows should reflect that.

>>33232369
>I can't promise that you'll love me madly, like you did your first love.
Why the literal fuck would you ever mention her ex during your wedding, let alone your marriage vows?
Also the line sucks ass.

>>33232369
notes
dont start with a negative. good line though
line two. too long too bodily reword
line 3 dont drop the "and" also "never saw me as a man" ? ok id drop.

ok yeah never mind i am not doing this for the whole thing. this is ruff as hell id go back and stop trying to explain things, this is supposed to be an oath with an explanation.

>>33232369
>>33232373
Why do people want to make their own wedding vows?
Just do the normal standard shit

>>33232826
this says everything that needs to be said

>>33232366 (OP)
0/10. The wedding vows are specified by rubrics. This isn't even a good proposal. The standard English wedding vows are absolutely perfect if you actually understand the meaning of the words.

The entire first part is just pathetic as well. Holy crap dude.

I've known people who are loyal without passion and they will put their loyalty as proof of undying love without thinking about whatever other stuff you have.

>>33232660
I have two sets of vows, public ones and these ones in private.

>>33232826

>click thread for something heartwarming
>first line
no thanks
get well soon or whatever, weirdo

>>33232964
online ouija board nonsense

>>33232427
Buddy this marriage isn't gonna last with a mindset like that. I'll just be blunt about it. If you don't love her and she doesn't love you, then just don't get married. This sounds like a divorce waiting to happen.

>>33232427
>It's a marriage based more on longterm benefit for both of us, and for our families.
If that is already understood then why make an extra effort to rub it in like that? Just keep that under the rug and be civil. This sounds horrible. Really. I would be extremely offended by that even if it was just a sham marriage. It shows a lack of tact and manners.

>>33232369
>wedding vows
>starts with "I can't promise"
lol, also tl;dr ask chatgpt