26M. Got a girl pregnant, marriage is happening, feeling overwhelmed - /adv/ (#33233132) [Archived: 963 hours ago]

Anonymous
6/17/2025, 9:28:00 AM No.33233132
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Started going to church a few months ago, mainly because there was a hot girl there I wanted to talk to.
Too nervous to approach her, so I just kept showing up every Sunday, sometimes bringing pastries I bake as a hobby.

Instead, a girl from work noticed me. Turns out she goes to the same church and had seen me there for weeks.
We started talking, getting lunch, and eventually started seeing each other more seriously.

Met her family. Her dad’s your classic suburban white guy. Her mom’s Black but dressed like a stereotypical white suburban Catholic church lady

Honestly thought my girlfriend was Italian at first, she’s totally white-passing. Her family was super welcoming.

After about three months, we slept together.
Condom broke.
She’s pregnant.

She’s keeping the baby, and since her family is pretty religious, marriage is basically a done deal.
I’ve agreed. I care about her, and I want to be there for my kid.

But I won’t lie. I’ve known her for less than seven months and I’m scared.
It’s all moving fast and I don’t want to screw it up.

How do you deal with the fear while still trying to do the right thing?
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Anonymous
6/17/2025, 10:01:10 AM No.33233172
What you do while fearful each day is what it means to build a legacy and be human.
Also nice job retard.
Anonymous
6/17/2025, 10:33:42 AM No.33233218
congrats
can't be courageous if you're not afraid

>condom broke
yeah suuuuuuuure it did lmao
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Anonymous
6/17/2025, 10:38:51 AM No.33233227
>>33233218
how hard is it to break condom?

ive never had this issue and i have sex with obese gf
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Anonymous
6/17/2025, 11:01:33 AM No.33233258
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>>33233227
very, unless you use it improperly

it would become quite likely however, say, if OP's gf were to prick it a couple times with a knife through the package. just sayin
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Anonymous
6/17/2025, 11:07:02 AM No.33233264
>>33233132 (OP)
>condom broke
>pregnant
The odds of this are so low I feel this could be a Larp. Sounds too cliché. Condoms are hard to break, and even then its hard to get pregnant.

But if I gave you the benefit of the doubt, you'll be fine. Overwhelm is normal.
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Anonymous
6/17/2025, 11:11:49 AM No.33233270
>>33233132 (OP)
You made a wish, God heard your wish, and granted your wish. You wanted a companion and only went to church initially for that purpose. God gave you a companion. Wasn't who you expected, but that's how God works, man's got a sense of humour.

Congrats OP. I married somewhat fast (2 years in but marriage was already mutually decided on within 6 months). And I only recently found out I'm going to be a dad a few months ago. It's quite normal and expected to shit yourself and feel overwhelmed, it's a big change. You're going from one old way of life to a new one, one that's permanent. You'll also feel doubt over your readiness or capability to be a husband & father, cuz you never been one. That's normal too. It's cuz you never been one before. If you want to learn how to be a good one, you first need to become one.

The fear in you is a good sign that you will be okay and maybe even good at both husband and father role. Cuz it shows you give a shit, that you care. That's what's important.

If you want confidence that your married life and future family will flourish, continue going to church for God, both in thanks and in surrender to His will, allowing him to give you strength to push through hard stuff, or allowing Him to take care of the future in moments where you are powerless. The family that prays together, stays together brother.

Good luck and God bless. You got this.
Anonymous
6/17/2025, 11:13:39 AM No.33233273
>>33233227
>>33233264
Odds of condom breakage isn't what determines if a condom breaks or not. Condoms arent gacha games. When a condom breaks it's because there's a reason for breakage. Either the condom was a size too small, or the man and woman didn't use enough lubrication and the friction tore the condom during sex. That's happened to me three times personally.
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Anonymous
6/17/2025, 11:36:04 AM No.33233315
>>33233227
>>33233218
>>33233258
>>33233273
The condoms were old. I had them since college but never used them because I was a virgin until now. We had a date, and I didn’t think things would get this far because she said she was a virgin and wanted to wait until marriage. But when she came to my place, one thing led to another, and we did it. So, I just grabbed the pack I had there and used it. I didn’t know they were expired.
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Anonymous
6/17/2025, 11:57:41 AM No.33233362
>>33233315
>Used expired condoms.
Fucking idiot
Anonymous
6/17/2025, 2:22:50 PM No.33233571
>>33233315
Was she a virgin too?
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Anonymous
6/17/2025, 2:57:13 PM No.33233635
>>33233571
Yes, she was.