Been talking to/flirting with a coworker for about 2 and a half months we genuinely enjoyed talking with each other but recently I found out that she's potentially seeing another guy and wants to be friends should keep her around to keep the door open or ghost her?

>>33235564 (OP)
there are no downsides to keeping a foid around. obviously they are incapable of staying in a relationship so the door will open eventually

>>33235570
Just never been in this situation before I'm a bit of a late bloomer(27)

>>33235591
>late bloomer
Yes I was one as well. Just keep going about your life but let her know in a subtle way if she ever changes her mind, the relationship ends, you would want to take her out

>>33235600
She wants to still go places and hangout but I'm a bit on the fence don't really want to entrench myself in the friend zone

>>33235603
Yea you cant be in the friend zone at all. There are ways to get out of it though.

>>33235564 (OP)
>potentially
I would say to keep going until you know for sure and that it's official. If you don't, you could be throwing away your opportunity. Maybe they're still in the talking phase because she's interested in you.

>>33235609
She said she wants to see where it goes with the other guy but I don't know for sure if it's official

>>33235612
Eh, then it sounds like she's made her decision. Personally I would drop it at that point and move on.

>>33235626
agree with this anon to move on but you dont need to permanently alienate her, or put your chances at zero. Always keep everything nonzero

>>33235633
>you dont need to permanently alienate her
I agree with this anon as well. Especially since she's a co worker. I just wouldn't do anything extra after work.

>>33235639
She texts me good morning almost every day so there's still some interest I guess

>>33235673
>Wants to see where things goes with her guy
>Still messages you good morning every day
Anon...

>>33235726
I'm dense ok

>>33235732
I get that. I've been giga dense too...

>>33235609
Talking means being filled with his cum

>>33235564 (OP)
>wants to be friends
You could get a job at SpaceX now that you're an orbiter

>>33235570
Bad advice. That is the definition of orbiting.
OP, you shouldn't burn any bridges, but if you have feelings for her you shouldn't be taking time out of your day to hang out with her and torture yourself if she's with someone else or doesn't reciprocate your feelings.

>>33235612
She chose him over you
>>33235673
She likes the attention you give her

>>33235989
>That is the definition of orbiting.
bad reading comprehension

>>33235989
I'm not in love or anything but she's fun to be around

I personally think being an orbiter is a bad idea. You can be "friends" with her but try not to give her too much attention. Either that, or maybe try being more proactive about how much you conveying how much you actually want her. Just don't be an orbiter because she will lose respect for you, and you will close options for yourself for a girl that isn't pursuing you

This thread is insane.

Why the fuck would you even want to be with a girl you know has eyes for other men, and is actively talking to other men?

Are you just a spiritual cuck?

Cut her off immediately and find a woman with a crumb of integrity.

>>33235564 (OP)
You know what my friend told me 8 years ago?
>Being friends with any women is good, even ugly ones, because they have pretty friends she can introduce you to.
And it still checks out today for me, there is never a downside to expanding your social network.

>>33236095
Keep her around but don't obsess over her. Find other women to sleep with.

>even considering keeping her around at all
>"why yes I would like to wait in line for 5 years so I can be her beta rebound"
Have some fucking self respect man.

>>33242223
>expecting /adv/fags to have self respect
This place is full of low-tier normalfags that crammed themselves onto a site where they figure they can at least lord above "basement dwelling chan incels". These people don't know the meaning of self respect.