I've made a few threads before about the odd relationship my brother and I have and I'm not sure how to proceed.

My brother appears to have a superiority complex, especially with me and the family. I'm always lame, stupid, ugly, weird, he's smarter, cooler, etc. He always dogs me about my job and how it 'isn't real work', how I don't have friends and am weird in my idiosyncrasies. He just generally makes me feel less than. But, if I ignore them we can sometimes have a decent conversation where he'll give me advice or just act normal towards me. Sometimes we can even hang out and do things together with little to no issues if I just ignore or fire back something he says.

The flip side is any time he wants to talk to me, it's generally because he wants me to do something for him, even when he is objectively not busy. He makes fun of how "I could've had a good career by now" (I'm 24 and have been at the same job for 4 years) but he has his own host of issues health wise and personally. I remember back in high school he said he was always compared to me by our parents so it makes me think he does this to get back at me in a way. He has made some flat out stupid and outlandish statements when he dogs on me sometimes; there are things I am objectively better at than he is yet he always points the things I'm weak in.

I really can't tell if this is intense male bonding/ball busting or if he is just genuinely a prick. Some of what he says genuinely bothers me, like about my job and my personal issues (he told me I should get diet pills after I've told him I had an eating disorder). Am I being an over sensitive bitch or is he bullying me? What do I do if it's one or the other?

>>33235642 (OP)
What's your job??

>>33235642 (OP)
He's a prick who thinks you won't cut him out of your life because he is "family". He pnly calls when he wants something, and that says everything about how he sees you. You don't need to take his crap. Don't answer his calls. Cut him out of your life bit by bit. He's not worth it.

>>33235642 (OP)
As an older brother, he probably doesn't know he's a being a prick. Its possible your parents put a ton of responsibility on him that he never asked for, that no one in your family is aware of or has acknowledged, and he's developed narcissism due to that. He's probably dealing with a lot of issues like you said: health, self esteem, etc. That has never been tended to because he's been used by your parents as the one to fix all the problems, do all the things they ask for. This is the problem of the first child, they developed a sense of haughtiness and self hatred because they are trained by the parents to be the person who does everything. Resentment builds towards younger siblings because they never are expected to fulfill those responsibilities. Maybe your family is a different case though. This is true for a lot of first children though, including myself.

>>33235642 (OP)
If you're a prostitute he's right. It's not a real job and its illegal

>>33235719
I'd say some of this holds water but I'm actually older than him, slight as it is. We're practically the same age
I'd absolutely agree he has his own problems, but do I still keep in contact with him? I keep going back and forth with that and he seems confused when I get distant and ignore him.

>>33235680
I get what you mean but it's fair to say he openly hates our family, is always rude to them and rarely if ever speaks to any of them. I'm the only one he's seems relatively nice to. I understand family relationships are different from friendships in that you'll put up with more but I can't tell with him. Fwiw, I've seen him talk to his friends (people he supposedly likes and chooses to spend time with) and he talks virtually the same to them as he does me, which is what makes me think maybe I'm just being oversensitive.

>>33235794
Have you ever considered punching him in the face and telling him hes an asshole?

>>33235663
I work with kids and the hours are always inconsistent and not 40 hours a week all the time. That's why he says I don't have a real job. He makes it seem like if you don't have your one career for life at 24 you're going nowhere.

Part of me makes me wonder if all this is just an extended bit and I'm not supposed to take anything he says seriously, like he's almost playing a character.

>>33235805
lol I don't think that would do much, he is much stronger than I am, I will give him that. He tells me all the time how people at his job love him and he's so well respected but I don't know why he's the opposite with me

>>33235808
he sounds like a boomer. wouldnt take him seriously.