I’ve struggled with weight my whole life. COVID made it worse. I ended up hitting Class 2 obesity. Two and a half years ago I finally snapped. Started lifting, eating right, stayed consistent. Dropped nearly 90 pounds, built some decent muscle naturally. Got a decent car, put a down payment on a small apartment, started feeling like my life was finally on track.
About four months ago I went on a countryside weekend trip with my cousins. We booked an Airbnb, packed it with meat, alcohol, and bad ideas. On the way there my cousin, classic playboy and a bit drunk, sees three cute girls walking along the road. He leans out and yells, “You girls wanna come party?” I cringed, expecting them to ignore us. But they laughed, said sure, and jumped in the car.
We spent the night drinking, grilling, and vibing. One of the girls stuck close to me, complimented me, laughed at my jokes. Stuff that never used to happen when I was fat. We ended up hooking up. First time for me. Thought she’d ghost, but the next morning she gave me her Snapchat.
We kept meeting up, got close fast. Now she wants to “make it official” but this is the Balkans. That doesn’t just mean dating. It means meeting families, serious talks, maybe even engagement.
I like her, but part of me wonders if I’m just caught up in finally being wanted. I was a virgin four months ago and now someone’s daughter is planning a future with me. Not sure if I’m ready or just scared to mess it up.
Why don't you say let's live together for a bit and think about it a little more .
>>33238307Live together?
Yeah, that’d be a disaster. Around here, people don’t live together when they’re engaged sometimes. Let alone just dating. Even being in a relationship gets side-eyes, and her dad’s pretty conservative on top of that
>>33238341Yeah, you should make it official if you like her and can see a future together if not just break up now and get it over it.
>>33238252 (OP)I won't read wall-of-text autobiographies that could have been distilled into a couple of lines. Get to the point next time.
>>33238447Be fat, lose weight, lose virginity, 4 months of dating girl wants to make it official which means getting engaged, he is scared that things are going to fast. God zommers are pathetic
>>33238562Kosovo (small Albania) girl looks best to me
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>>33238323>25don't get engaged. tell her you're not sure yet. if she stays, good, if she leaves, oh well.
have some fun anon
>>33238252 (OP)whats the longest amount of time you've spent together?
its worth testing how you feel around each other after 72+ hours
>>33238605We spent about 10 days together when her parents went to Germany to visit her aunt. She told them she was staying with a close friend, but she stayed with me the whole time.
She cooked, helped around the place, and made everything feel easy. We’ve got a lot in common, always something to talk about, but we’re also good just being quiet together.Just feels like we’re moving a bit fast.
>>33238628I would say just tell her that you want to take things slow a bit but don't want to end the relationshi.
>>33238628im in a similar boat in the sense that i had no real dating experience up until 2 months ago. what i can tell you is that if it feels right, just go with the flow and try not to think too much but just feel instead.
since the first date with this girl im seeing i’ve been overthinking and was surprised she wanted to keep seeing me. i now am planning on making things official and focus on ‘us’
>>33238252 (OP)As a Westerner living in the Balkans I can relate. But was she a virgin? Sounds like typical whore behavior jumping into a car with strange men. Usually you meet girls through inner circles and seal the deal. Long-term I think she will whore around soon enough. Sure, you can make it official, but you are not marriage or engaged yet, and in your stead I would observe her for another 2-3 months and judge accordingly. Don't look through the virgin glasses, get yourself one instead. Snatch a girl 10 years younger than you.
>>33238812I get where she’s coming from. Every time we want to see each other, she has to come up with an excuse—like saying she’s going out with a friend or shopping for clothes. I know it’s frustrating for her that we barely get to spend a full night together.
I like her. She’s not materialistic, doesn’t spend money on pointless stuff, and doesn’t even care about having a big wedding or engagement party. All she wants is for us to be together without having to hide from her dad.
I love her and I'm not against us getting married in the future it just feels like I'm moving a little too fast.
>>33239158Yeah, she was. When my cousin invited them, her two friends were all in, and she just kind of got dragged along. She was pretty shy at first when we got to the Airbnb, but after a while she loosened up and started enjoying herself.
The place had three rooms—my cousin took her best friend upstairs, and the other cousin went to the jacuzzi with the second girl. So it ended up being just me and her. After some drinks and talking, we went to my room and ended up sleeping together.
>>33239187For me its the Croatian girl.
>>33238252 (OP)OP, I hope you apologized to your cousin for doubting him
>>33239238So she gave her virignity to you first night you met her? Are you 100 % sure? If she really was I don't see a problem man.
>>33239313I apologized the very next day. Honestly, I don’t even know why I doubted him. The guy’s a full-on Mediterranean Chad,
he’s been with more women than I can count. Just a week before the trip, he told me he could call some girls to join us if I was down, then showed me his Snapchat, and yeah, he was talking to like 20 different women.
>>33239327>>Are you 100 % sure? If she really was I don't see a problem man.Yeah, I’m sure. She bled a little and said it hurt at first, it was pretty clear she hadn’t done it before
>>33238252 (OP)If you don't want to make it official tell her right now. Being a little bitch about it only wastes time for both of you.
>>33238252 (OP)Albanian girls lips, ahhhh.
>>33238628>She cooked>helped around the place>she's absolutely fucking amazing and we are great together>I'm just a huge pussy and afraid of commitmentSorry dude but you are a scared little bitch. You should dump her and let Chad take this one.
>>33238252 (OP)>but this is the Balkans. That doesn’t just mean dating. It means meeting families, serious talks, maybe even engagement.Bro, Balkaner here, that's not how it work, if you love her make it official and then have her introduce to your family and friends and what not
>>33242319Yeah, I get that, and I know that’s how things usually go around here, but her family’s a bit different. Her dad’s super conservative.
My older sister had a boyfriend before getting married and my dad was chill about it, but her side’s still stuck in that old school mindset. If it were up to us, we’d probably be living together by now,
>>33238252 (OP)there are no guidebooks. You make choices & you live with them.
If you could introduce me to your woman I could stare into her soul & tell you what I see.
>>33238341>Live together?>Yeah, that’d be a disaster.If you actually want the relationship to last and not blow up as soon as you get married and move in together, this is a retarded way of thinking. You don't know someone until you live with them.
>>33238447t. challenged reading skills
