>new girl clearly not over ex
>but also has him blocked and they are no contact

I don’t think I’m a rebound but she had approached me first and it’s clear she’s very into me, but what would you do /adv/?

>>33240456 (OP)
give it time, dont get attached

>>33240456 (OP)
you are a rebound but enjoy it nonetheless
don't get your hopes up but be proactive and optimistic
don't fall in love too impulsively.
I mean rationally I think it's easier said than done but if you've been into this affairs before I think you can control your emotions better
if it's your first gf I would advice not to do it in these circumstances
rebound bfs/gfs are never long lasting, they are something you get to forget about the previous partner faster.

>>33240456 (OP)
Basically babysitting her until her ex comes back around desu

>>33240475
She said she had been planning to never date again but felt ready for another relationship, hence why she went after me

>>33240544
I don’t think she’d take him back, but if he reached out she would definitely be curious. They were together 4 years and it’s been one year, plus it was an emotionally abusive relationship

>>33240571
>She said she had been planning to never date again
how old is she to give up on relationships lol

>>33240571
>I don’t think she’d take him back, but if he reached out she would definitely be curious.
anon

>>33240590
25

>>33240627
He’s still actively emailing and calling her from random numbers but she doesn’t open them and doesn’t pick up, I think she’s spam filtered them too. But once, a friend messaged her saying he wrote a song about her and sent it, she opened and listened to it for a few seconds before closing it. This was in front of me while we were still in the talking stage

>>33240740
>she doesn't blatantly do it in my face so there couldn't possibly be anything going on
you said it yourself
>>new girl clearly not over ex
>>but if he reached out she would definitely be curious
normalfags gonna normalfag though i suppose

>>33240740
>25
kek. Honestly, going through a breakup with someone you thought you would spend life with is extremely painful. 1 year is a good healing time frame in my opinion. The sting is still there so you should give her time to warm up to new imaginings with you. Exs dont leave the mind easily, but once they are gone it is quite easy. So my advice is to just let her come to you at her own speed and be reasonable that she just went through something really painful in the recent past. I dont think it is necessarily rebound. She still has feelings for her ex, that doesnt mean she wants to be with him or that she doesnt want to make room in her heart for you <3

>>33240776
I know for a fact nothing’s going on, too long to explain but unless she’s hired dozens of people to help keep up the lie they’re not in contact

>>33240778
I appreciate that, but even from a female perspective what’s the point of playing second fiddle in this case then? Isn’t this like how some rube marries Rose for 50 years and she spends her final moments reliving her time with Jack?

>>33240776 #
I know for a fact nothing’s going on, too long to explain but unless she’s hired dozens of people to help keep up the lie they’re not in contact

>>33240778 #
I appreciate that, but even from a female perspective what’s the point of playing second fiddle in this case then? Isn’t this like how some rube marries Rose for 50 years and she spends her final moments reliving her time with Jack? I don’t have any feelings for my exes. It’s clear she never got proper closure, and in absence of that it probably takes longer than a year

>>33240820
If you really want to find out if she really likes you or is just using you and are hence easily replaceable, stop giving her attention, bring your replies down to low levels, spend as little time as possible, and see how she reacts

>>33240820
>I know for a fact nothing’s going on, too long to explain but unless she’s hired dozens of people to help keep up the lie they’re not in contact
Unless that tl;dr is that you keep her chained up in the basement, this is wishful thinking or arrogance. Teenagers with ultra strict parents still manage to fuck, i doubt your security is that good.

>>33240456 (OP)
Shag her if you want but don't expect it to go anywhere

>>33240820
>I know for a fact nothing’s going on, too long to explain but unless she’s hired dozens of people to help keep up the lie they’re not in contact
LMAO you think her friends keep an eye on her 24/7? Or are monitoring her DMs? All it takes is one "hey" on the finsta account you don't know about when she's feeling nostalgic and lonely if you're not around.
The only way to know for sure is to look at her phone or computer, which is a violation of trust anyway, and see she's not talking to him or rejecting him if he reached out. My first GF's ex reached out to her once, and I would have never known unless I creeped on her reddit account while she was in the bathroom. Luckily, she just told him to fuck off.
Personally, I think one year after even a four year relationship heading for marriage is enough time for most people to get over an ex, if you're having these suspicions at all she's clearly got some baggage.

>>33240954
>>33241074
He doesn’t even live in the same state for one. She definitely has baggage though I can tell, even after a month of us dating the progress was clear

>>33241273
Guys travel to the other side of the globe just to get some. That's the deal with modern technology, you're in competition with every guy with a phone to some extent nowadays. Not to mention, the fact that she's even still fretting over him makes you the third wheel as is.

It's pretty funny, people make fun of incels for talking about "pair bonding" and what have you, but seemingly every chick has some oneitis from the past that will always matter more to her than whatever placeholder penis she's currently tolerating.

>>33240456 (OP)
anon I waited an entire year to suggest a relationshop with the person I fell in love with after my ex because I didn't want them to be a rebound. Why are you rushing yourself?

If you think she will be "curious" once he reaches out you need to raise your self-worth yesterday and dump her.

>>33240456 (OP)
The minute a girl talks to me about her ex I immediately know it's nothing serious and we're just going to have a fun time, in the meantime make sure to meet other women.

>>33240456 (OP)
>>33240571
>emotionally abusive
>has him blocked
I would bet my left nut that some point very soon she will be back in contact and emotionally cheating, maybe even physically cheating. It's just not worth it at all. women love being emotionally abused, I'm sorry but someone had to say it.

>>33240456 (OP)
picrel. it's (You) !

>>33241329
Incels don't say anything normies don't say. It's all about context. Normies will happily talk about how women are wild when they are younger and then settle down with a nice boring safe guy when they are done having fun and sex. But the moment you put a negative spin on that, you are an incel.

>>33246870
idk what you're getting at, it's literally just the shit every guy knows, women party young and then draw some sucker in when they're old.

>>33240456 (OP)
You're a rebound.

My ex just came back to me from the rebound after telling me it was over for good when we broke up. Feel bad for the new fag but that's life.

Anyway yeah, like >>33240470 says. Don't get attached. She will most likely use you for emotional support then leave you. Be careful.