I got a new job a few weeks ago and I see maybe 20 of the same people every day and every time, I have an opportunity to talk to get to know them and make myself known, but I never do. I just dont have anything to say to them other than the most surface level topical things. Some of them I've known from a few years back since I worked there 2 years ago for a while, and still I can never contribute anything worth mentioning to a conversation unless its about something that I am particularly interested in. I just can't think of things fast enough. I always think of good and thoughtful things to say but only like 5-60 minutes after the fact

Anons who are able to talk to anyone and come up with an interesting conversation topic about anything every time, how do you do it? How do good things to talk about come to your mind so fast? How do I rewire by brain so that I can be a good conversationalist that people enjoy speaking with

Am desperate

>>33241024 (OP)
just be more attentive
less in your head
focus your attention on the details of things, less on the big picture

for example, what is your cowering wearing today, or holding? or even in detail what are they doing?

this is why women are more social then men, we tend to be stuck in big picture mode and focusing how the overall conversation is going wheres a truly successful interaction is more focused on details and nuances

try and notice little things, make comments on them
and gradually your thoughts will naturally be more curious, and able to have more conversations

>>33241024 (OP)
as a very socially retarded person I reccomend talking about food or pets. people like talking about things that make you feel good and cozy inside.

>>33241024 (OP)
90% of all small talk is about the big game, last night's TV or local gossip. Sometimes that kind of chat can move on to more serious topics.

It can be easier to join a conversation than to start one. Very rarely is workplace chat so private that you can't just jump into a chat two other guys are having.