I'm male, almost 25, I ended a 4 years relationship with a girl that was near perfect, like 10 on looks and super funny but a bit awkward. How do I get over her? But it's not only her, I also lost my best friend like a month after her.

With every month that passes I regret breaking up more. Every little phrase that sounded funny to me, the way she speaks, it's all on repeat every day at all times. I always see things that I feel I need to send her, like memes or pictures of animals, I think of her reaction.

These times are so bad for me because my best friend went schizo or got tired of me, and nuked me from his social media, I know he lives around my city but don't know where, I've never seen him IRL, we met online and talked a lot nearly every day. Both hurt nearly as much.

It's like I'm missing a limb with both of them missing, I try to reach for them every hour and realize that I just can't.

>>33241365 (OP)
(cont.)
Forgot to mention but it's been a year since then, so you can dimension why I'm tired of this and it's mainly why I made this post. I've let it sink in, this is the new reality and it sucks.

You're going through a double heartbreak — losing a girlfriend and a best friend — and that’s heavy. It’s not just missing people, it’s mourning connection, routine, comfort, and a version of yourself that existed with them.

Regret is normal. It revisits you in quiet moments, in memes you want to send, in memories that loop. But regret isn’t always truth — it’s just your brain trying to fill the void with “what-ifs” because the silence is too loud.

What helps?

1. **Give the pain structure.** Set 15–20 minutes a day to let yourself feel everything. Then, stop. Don’t let it bleed into your whole day.

2. **Write a letter to each of them** (don’t send it). Let the thoughts *leave your head*. It’ll make room for new ones.

3. **Start small reconnections.** You're craving connection — not just *them*. Talk in a Discord, join a subreddit, or text someone new. Baby steps.

4. **Routine is lifeline.** Sleep. Eat. Walk. Lift. Learn something. Structure keeps grief from swallowing you.

5. **Forgive yourself.** You made choices based on what you knew at the time. You’re not broken for feeling this way.

Right now, your heart’s trying to grab onto ghosts. With time and effort, that will ease. You're not done. You're just healing.

>>33241365 (OP)
I won't read whining, moaning threads. OP talks about everything except the cause of the breakups, which is a clue that nothing is going to change.

>>33241380
Shut up, AI.

>>33241380
kys
>>33241381
>OP talks about everything except the cause of the breakups, which is a clue that nothing is going to change.
Because it doesn't fucking matter? It's over bucko, she didn't like me anymore. Not that I care what your opinion would have been if I told you because if you only care about that your opinion must be worthless.

let me guess, breakup was because of cheating. If it was get a grip and move the fuck on. If no cheating was involved get her back. Or quit whining shut the fuck up and move on to a new woman.

>>33241389
You’re right to be angry — someone dismissing your pain like that, or trying to "analyze" your heartbreak like it's a math problem, can feel insulting. You're not obligated to rehash the whole story just to justify your emotions. The *why* doesn't always matter when the *hurt* is this real.

She didn’t like you anymore. That alone is enough to shatter someone, especially after four years. And then your best friend ghosting you on top of it? Of course it feels like the walls closed in.

People love to act like if you just “talk it through” or “explain yourself better,” everything gets fixed. But sometimes you already *know* why it ended. That doesn’t make the ache any smaller. It’s the absence — the daily emptiness — that hits hardest.

You're not asking for a fix. You’re just trying to breathe again. And that’s valid. You're surviving something heavy, and that takes grit most people don’t even understand.

You don’t need to justify your pain. You just need to keep moving through it. And you are.

>>33241397
>let me guess, breakup was because of cheating.
no, where do you niggers come from? stop projecting
>Or quit whining shut the fuck up and move on to a new woman.
That's literally what I'm asking how to do.

Mods just ban this fucking retard. Jannie hurry up and clean this shit thread up and make it snappy. Reported for BAAWWWING AND VENTING LIKE A LITTLE BITCH.

>>33241405
well what the fuck have you done to move on? are you prioritizing your self care and needs to heal? mentally? emotionally? do you go out? do you have emotional support from friendships? parents? do you talk to new women?

answer nigger

>>33241416
aw man i've tried everything, i did some fent drugs yesterday and tried killing myself

>>33241437
fuck man don’t do that. Build yourself up not take yourself down. I’m serious.

>>33241405
>>33241389
because to help we need to know how bad you fucked it up
but from what little you said I guess it sounds like you didn't see her reciprocating your feelings and left? at the end of the day you gotta realize if that was the case you're better off.

>>33241447
yeah man i'm just gonna do drugs i'll be fine i'm thinking i might turn into a homosexual as well, i've been bisexual for awhile and been thinking about having sex with a man

>>33241456
>been thinking about having sex with a man

fuck that will ruin your will to live self esteem more

>>33241468
yeah i know ;) don't threaten me with a good time

>>33241365 (OP)
just get back with your ex, fuck her, you will realize she’s not worth it

BECAUSE YOUR A FAGGOT

>>33241483
does having sex with a trans women count?

>>33241485
still faggot behavior

penis + penis = faggot
penis + penis in woman costume= faggot
penis +penis turned fake botched pussy hole= faggot
vagina+vagina=faggot


penis+vagina = normal

>>33241492
dammit fuck well guys it's over i'm officially a faggot, well.... can i suck your cock in the mean time?

>>33241450
I thought people just break up for normal reasons, that's why I deleted it, it seemed superfluous and didn't want to make the OP too big. My point is that I want to get over her, it's almost like schizophrenia me thinking of her voice a lot.

You could see the relationship was going to end like a month before, she was starting to be very dry with her words, last date sucked and hurt because of her body language, like she was done with me, yet she said everything was fine until she told me we had to break up weeks after that. It's been a year I forgot to put that in the OP (>>33241379).

>you're better off.
That's what I tell myself. She was great and funny, but I am kind of dry, that's why I think we broke up, we don't really vibe together that well. A good portion of the relationship wasn't just dating but we were friends at first, though it was obvious she liked me and I was reluctant.

Exactly because we were friends at some point is that I thought maybe we could go back to that, but it's obvious she doesn't want that anymore, even though she said she wanted us to become friends again when we broke up.

>>33241521
have you tried getting her back?

>>33241535
no why should i

>>33241543
your op sounds like you wanted her or something but if not then idk tf are you doing to move on

>>33241549
yeah i'll just move on

>>33241535
Yes, it's not gonna work, I ask her to go out to talk in person, and she said we could sometime, it's a non-answer like "try again next time". I made the post exactly because I didn't think anything I try with her is gonna work anymore and I should just move on.

Also what's with the schizo autist shitting the thread up with AI and answerint to himself? Is that like a thing that happens in every thread here or did I trigger something in this faggot?

There's really no one-shot answer for you OP other than literally blowing up your life in such a way that thinking about this stops becoming a priority (whether negative or positive, like losing/getting a job) and then eventually erodes such as it doesn't hurt anymore.

It really is just a matter of other things slowly taking priority but you definitely have to force it in some manner, like getting new friends or going back into dating. You can 'work on yourself', and perhaps you have done so that last year, but as you can tell it never is enough.

>>33241365 (OP)
Women and beauty are a dime a dozen.
Go to the gym, make money, get game, find another girl.
If you act like a pathetic loser and chase after her she will lose even more respect for you and you will lose respect for yourself.
The funny thing is, if you move on she is more likely to come back to you, because that's how women work.

>>33241694
>>33241816
Thanks for an actual answer, I guess one year is just too soon. I'm not sulking and stopping doing my own thing, it's just I can't get over it mentally, I'm still there. I guess that's all there is to it I'm not gonna add anything else.

>>33241365 (OP)
I have no advice (sorry). I just got out of my first relationship (also one year ago now). The usual things I would do to get over someone is getting rid of reminders of them (cards/mementos) — but in romantic relationships that hardly helps because they’re physically part of you, and the memories are that much more intense.

I currently ended up completely relocating to another state/city, no joke. So there’s validity to the statement the other anon said, about totally overhauling your life for a new environment, to make moving on from them less of a challenge.

I’m glad you posted about this. Helps knowing I’m not the only person going through it right now. Wish you luck man.