I want to have a kid, but I don't want it to be a crying little bitch as a toddler. Is it genetic or shit parenting causing toddlers to cry and throw tantrums in public? If genetic, I am probably safe because I never did that as a kid and neither did my wife.
If it's entirely parenting, how do I prevent that? Do I try to trivialize stuff for the kid, eg. if they fall I just go "HAHA" instead of "AAAAWW POOR YOU"? What else?
This is probably the worst place to ask because the majority here are 30 year old virigins either way.

>>33242713 (OP)
Yep, just minimize and treat it like it's no big deal. Make sure you're still hugging them and all when they're hurt, but treat it like it was just a crazy move they did. Not quite on the level of making fun of a stranger tripping over trash cans in public, but ya know

>>33242713 (OP)
You're the man so you need to lay down the law. Not necessarily giving out beatings, but you need to make it clear that there's gonna be consequences for acting like a little shit. It's mainly just bringing the fist down when need be while still being dad.

>>33242713 (OP)
i advice you to inform yourself about the neurological and developmental stages of the human being, particulary toddler to see that it is vital for them to go through this space, even more so with an understanding and skillful parent.

>>33242713 (OP)
Adopt a 4 year old or older. Tada: no toddler crap.

>>33242713 (OP)
Father of 4, 5th coming soon. Every kid is different, even with both parents the same. As far as preventing tantrums it becomes a skill issue as a parent, being able to identify when your child feels genuinely hurt versus "GIVE IT TO ME" is important, if you give your kids attention and talk them through it when they feel like shit, even if the reason is silly but they're well meaning then they won't default to tantrums elsewhere. If you ignore your kid or just tell them to get over it and shit they will tantrum constantly, or at least that's what I see in some of my kids' peers. If you actually want a child and spent time with your child, tantrums won't be an issue because a tantrum is the result of the child not having any other release or way to get attention.
When a baby rhesus monkey lands on the forest floor, it shrieks. It screams, it wails like it's life depends on it and coos into the trees for mom. It is instinct, it has to, if the baby monkey isn't saved then something will come eat it. I imagine tantrums are a vestigial "monkey on the forest floor" reaction to not getting attention. "If they forget I am here I will die".

>>33242713 (OP)
>cry and throw tantrums in public
there is a shit parenting component to this, BUT be aware some children are way more difficult to educate properly than others
case in point, my eldest son is an angel and has always been.
while my youngest had to be disciplined a lot(yes, that includes corporal punishment, I dgaf what snowflakes say. when you've told the same thing a dozen times and the kid still doesn't listen, a slap in the face can do the trick).

>>33242765
>(yes, that includes corporal punishment, I dgaf what snowflakes say. when you've told the same thing a dozen times and the kid still doesn't listen, a slap in the face can do the trick).
alternatively, consider carrying your kid around instead. Not like a baby but when my most difficult kid is giving me hell I grab his ankle and walk through the house with him upside down until he calms down and agrees to stop. I don't have to hit him and he gets the picture that he isn't in control. Might work for you, I can't hit the kids, if that makes me a faggot then sure.

>>33242713 (OP)
Young kids cry and scream by default to communicate. It's your job to teach them how to communicate properly (eg: Ignore them when they're clearly just screaming for attention. Teach them to say 'please' instead of whining and screeching when they want something. Teach them to express themselves with words instead of sulking wordlessly until you magically understand what they want).
The better you are at helping your kids to process their feelings and express themselves, the faster they will grow out of the screaming and crying stage, because they won't need to scream and cry anymore.

However, you need to be prepared for it to continue longer than expected. Sometimes kids will revert back to crying/screaming when they're extremely overwhelmed or upset. Some kids take longer to grow out of it because of a shitty home life (stress), developmental disorders, or simple mulishness lol.

Most kids don't cry/scream every single time they're upset. And they don't usually do it for long.
You just gotta help them to work through their shit, and be a positive figure for them, and they'll be alright.

My autismo sister hates high-pitched noises so when her kids cried as toddlers she taught them to cry with their mouths closed. They'd come to her, wailing, and she'd say 'mouth closed', and they'd shut their mouths, muffling the noise while she comforted them lmao. It was funny af to watch. Did the trick.

>>33242765
Slapping your kids in the face is limp-wristed behaviour. Imagine having beef with a fucking toddler lmao.