a former close friend scammed me, gloated about it and then blocked me like three years ago

it doesn't affect my life or anything, but every time i remember it happened i genuinely cant contain my rage and i can't stop thinking about wanting to brutally beat him or rob him. i then [REDACTED] and i honestly cant stop until i go to bed or get distracted by something else

he moved to a different state, and the scam happened while he was hundreds of miles away from me and we were catching up for the first time in a year or two. so i literally can't touch him - i don't know where he is. i would've beaten the fuck out of him if he still lived in my city, but the fact that i can't do anything about how insulting that shit was... it literally eats at me lmao

how do i just get over it and move on?

>>33247588 (OP)
Go and kill him

>>33247588 (OP)
Here is my random psychologist time, son

Let's make it simple

1) You feel anger, because something from outside violated your borders. It's your healthy reaction, inviting you to act. Either to restore justice or eliminate the source of pain

2) That much anger is not healthy, usually this happens when this certain event overlaps with previous similar events. For example - mother ridiculed you, then in school you get bullied, now someone looks at you funny and you bash their head in. Prisons are full of such cases. Chances are, this violation builds up on something from your past emotionally. Its your job to dig into in, gently

3) You have too much anger in general, rage is not very natural state to be in. That overlaps with second point. Life trained your nervous system to be in this mode, find the answer in the past

4) Which means that if it wouldnt be that guy, something else would make you feel like this. It's not about that guy in particular. Its just your most recent trigger to these emotions

5) The reason your thoughts and nervous system stuck in this, is because you didn't close the emotional loop. Remember for example something from school. You had worries there, problems, fears, issues. Then you processed it emotionally, closed the loop, got your resolution, the story ended. Now you don't feel anything

This story with the guy is still going in your mind and the body. You are driven by dysfunctional hope to find your closure through the way life taught you. Violence, disguised as justice

The truth is, and I implore you to write this down many many times. All your closures and solutions are inside of you. This situation is very very real to your body and mind, but it doesnt exist outside. Are you following me?

There is no closure outside

>>33248064
What do with it. Vent your anger physically, let your body feel that it fought and won. Then tell your ego to shut up and step into the body of that guy. Understand what was driving him. What was moving him. How did he let you know beforehand?

We cant hate something we understand. Only be disappointed, disgusted or such

After that, find gratitude in the situation. For example 'this guy was a mirror, he showed me cheaply that I have no idea how people work, and it showed me my unideal ways with emotional control, so I can become better an happier'

or

'he showed me my ego way cheaper than it could be'

There is always gratitude in everything. Write it down. Many times. Then burn the pages

Keep feeling and processing anger - empathy - gratitude - release until this certain story ends for you and loop closes

Find out where does it come from, what borders were violated in your childhood and adolescence, who taught you to react like this or didnt teach you how to operate better

The next chapter of your life starts now

>>33248064
>>33248076
this is the best advice i've ever seen on this board - i feel lucky it's directed towards me
thank you, im saving this. god bless you

>>33248491
It's not your fault, but it's your responsibility. Godspeed, son

>>33247588 (OP)
>a former close friend scammed me, gloated about it
Don't associate with jews!

>>33248615
Sounds more like nigger behavior