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Anonymous
6/20/2025, 2:42:18 PM No.33248613
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How do i move on and accept being a 38 year old virgin?
Everything I do in life, even hobbies, feels like cope for this fact
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Anonymous
6/20/2025, 2:46:40 PM No.33248618
>>33248613 (OP)
How many girls have you asked out
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Anonymous
6/20/2025, 2:51:01 PM No.33248624
>>33248613 (OP)
And I thought I was doing bad at 18. I can’t even comprehend the damage this must entail. Do people think you’re gay? Probably not most people but definitely parents think so.

I don’t know why a guy in your position wouldn’t simply hire a prostitute to at least remove the weight of being a virgin. I wouldn’t recommend this for a younger person but you gotta do three things drink eat and fuck.

You gotta take care of the last one soon. WAGMI but only if you be very honest about why you are a virgin.
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Anonymous
6/20/2025, 3:18:43 PM No.33248713
>>33248618
I've never asked a girl out
>>33248624
My parents asked if I was gay up to my mid 20s, but they stopped asking about girls and dating after that.
Prostitution is not legal where I live
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Anonymous
6/20/2025, 3:26:45 PM No.33248740
>>33248713
Dating apps. Its truly the only shot. Are you one of those super selective people? Is this a part of the reason?
Anonymous
6/20/2025, 3:31:28 PM No.33248765
>>33248613 (OP)
What is your height?
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Anonymous
6/20/2025, 3:32:22 PM No.33248772
>>33248765
This is also an important question.
Anonymous
6/20/2025, 3:36:12 PM No.33248795
>>33248765
5’7
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Anonymous
6/20/2025, 4:06:52 PM No.33248924
>>33248795
Aaaaand there it is. It just sucks ass theres nothing to say. Its a horrible curse
Anonymous
6/20/2025, 4:31:24 PM No.33249052
>>33248613 (OP)
Are you bald?
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Anonymous
6/20/2025, 4:33:29 PM No.33249056
>>33248795
>>33249052
Q&A Is finished. Nothing to do
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Anonymous
6/20/2025, 4:45:03 PM No.33249108
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>>33248613 (OP)
>accept
you don't
>>33248713
>I've never asked a girl out
what are you waiting for? srs question
>>33248713
>not legal where I live
so, not only are you a dumbass, you're also a pussy
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Anonymous
6/20/2025, 4:45:10 PM No.33249110
>>33248613 (OP)
1. Meet people. Lots of people, of all genders
2. Statistically, some will be female.
3. One or more of those you will be particularly friendly with
4. Ask her out.
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Anonymous
6/20/2025, 4:48:57 PM No.33249135
>>33249056
So I just have to live like this my entire life?
>>33249108
Why would I ask a girl out? You already said there's nothing I can do so it seems like I would just be humiliated. Also there was never a good time to do it
>>33249052
No
>>33249110
Meet people where?
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Anonymous
6/20/2025, 4:58:20 PM No.33249193
>>33248613 (OP)
>>33248713
>>33248795
Let's be honest. You're at least a good 20 years late to the party + you accumulated zero social experience, having never asked out a woman at 38.

If you want to catch up, you'll have to take shortcuts and the only one I see that's realistic are steroids + gymmaxxing. Loads of niggers in their 40s and 50s take steroids to look better and younger. That + a social skills course or something might be of help.

Then just put yourself out there the best you can (dating apps, hit up old women you know on Facebook, try to make friends IRL, etc) and even then it'll be hard, and you gotta start NOW, but it's still possible.
Anonymous
6/20/2025, 5:10:29 PM No.33249271
This is a demoralization thread
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Anonymous
6/20/2025, 5:20:55 PM No.33249309
Do you masturbate to porn?
Anonymous
6/20/2025, 5:28:34 PM No.33249332
>>33249271
How?

If you're 38 years old and a virgin that's your problem and if you're demoralized by it, do something fag lmfao
Anonymous
6/20/2025, 5:51:16 PM No.33249444
>>33248624
where do you even find prostitutes
Anonymous
6/20/2025, 6:11:10 PM No.33249539
>>33248613 (OP)
10. Thou shalt not covet.
Don't compare yourself to other.
"The Power of Positive Thinking" - Norman Vincent Peale
1. Picture yourself as successful
2. Cut out bad thoughts and replace them with good thoughts.
3. Take problems that seem daunting and cut them down into little pieces.
4. People that seem like they are better than you are really not that great,
5. God is with you and no one and nothing can stand against you.
6. Search your past for reasons as to why you feel and think the way you do. Once you understand things and put it into focus you can deal with it.
7. You can do all things through Christ who strengthens you.
8. Take an estimation of yourself and then raise it up, you are awesome.
9. When you are having overwhelming troubles or anxiety just take all of your problems and give them to God. Put yourself in God's hands.
10. You can do it
Anonymous
6/20/2025, 6:54:01 PM No.33249800
>>33249108
>what are you waiting for? srs question
the perfect moment that guarantees success. i will not subject myself to rejection
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Anonymous
6/20/2025, 9:08:39 PM No.33250380
>>33249800
Then you will never succeed. Rejection is an unavoidable part of life and success.
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Anonymous
6/20/2025, 9:43:54 PM No.33250505
>>33248613 (OP)
>How do i move on and accept being a 38 year old virgin?
You dont.
Op
6/21/2025, 12:31:11 AM No.33251252
>>33250380
Some retard is answering for me, I’ve only responded to the height question so far
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Anonymous
6/21/2025, 12:33:06 AM No.33251263
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>>33251252
>Some retard is answering for me, I’ve only responded to the height question so far

You're a lazy piece of shit anyways. He's doing the right thing.
Anonymous
6/21/2025, 1:58:15 AM No.33251645
Listen, you have advantages and disadvantages. Just change everything that is in your power and you'd be surprised how much God can bless you.
Anonymous
6/21/2025, 2:01:38 AM No.33251657
>>33249135
Why would I ask a girl out? ... it seems like I would just be humiliated. Also there was never a good time to do it
Your problem isn't that you're a virgin. Your personality sucks.
Anonymous
6/21/2025, 5:02:24 AM No.33252388
>>33248613 (OP)
I would rather have been a virgin than have gone through my most recent breakup, which I'm still suffering from 4 months later. Count your blessings f.a.m.
Anonymous
6/21/2025, 6:12:28 AM No.33252601
>>33249271
Only demoralizing for the 40 year old virgins reading
Anonymous
6/21/2025, 6:13:31 AM No.33252606
>>33251252
So on top of getting cucked your entire life you're even getting cucked out of answering your own thread? Brutal.
Anonymous
6/21/2025, 6:14:16 AM No.33252608
>>33248613 (OP)
wow what a way to waste time
I think the biggest loser I know has found at least one mid to kinda ugly looking gf by the time he was 36 and looks happy with her by now.
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Anonymous
6/21/2025, 8:28:51 AM No.33252918
>>33252608
But he wasnt virgin aka mentalcel
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6/21/2025, 10:18:47 AM No.33253299
>>33248613 (OP)
When we get AI/robot women you won't have to abandon your family like many others will
Anonymous
6/21/2025, 11:38:39 AM No.33253399
>>33248613 (OP)
I am 22 year old incel, I have been an incel ever since I was in primary school, even back then I knew It was over. Also short and ugly, at around 17 I embraced Eastern Catholicism and never looked back. Still nothing has changed but now I have something else to live for.
Anonymous
6/21/2025, 11:42:46 AM No.33253403
Blows my mind this happens to people
Even the biggest loser I know lost it at like 25

Unreal. I assume it’s mostly larp
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Anonymous
6/21/2025, 1:18:53 PM No.33253592
>>33253403
>I assume it’s mostly larp
Why would you assume that? Im non larping 32 khv and thats just a fact. If anything, I would say that you're baiting by pretending that such guys do not exist.
Anonymous
6/21/2025, 1:29:44 PM No.33253611
>>33248613 (OP)
I'm 10 years younger so take this with a grain of salt. But ever since going to therapy and learning a shitton about self-acceptance I've been a lot less focused on this fact.
I used to feel like I'm less of a person for being a virgin and something I should be incredibly embarrassed about, at the moment it isn't something that bothers me, beyond the fact that I of course wish to have some romantic connection one day.
Anonymous
6/21/2025, 1:37:54 PM No.33253626
>>33248713
>I've never asked a girl out
Kek, of course.
How exactly did you ever expect it to happen then? I'm serious...I'm very curious about the thought process here.
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Anonymous
6/21/2025, 1:51:53 PM No.33253654
>>33253626
Girls can ask guys out too. Its rare but possible.
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Anonymous
6/21/2025, 2:18:11 PM No.33253717
>>33253654
That didn't answer my question anon.
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Anonymous
6/21/2025, 2:25:12 PM No.33253739
>>33249271
An attempt, for sure. But the funniest part about the whole thing is the only people who get successfully demoralized by these threads are other incels. It's a self-inflicted bullet wound.
My self-esteem is sky high after reading shit like this kek.
Anonymous
6/21/2025, 2:55:13 PM No.33253812
>>33253403
It is really easy to end up as a 30+ virgin. You just have to do nothing. No girl will fall onto your lap unless you actually do something.
I'm soon 35 and have been beating myself up over rgetting the courage to ask a girl I kinda know out.
If that fails I'll most likely die a virgin.
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Anonymous
6/21/2025, 2:56:36 PM No.33253816
>>33253717
Not OP but not far off. For me [asking a girl out] feels like a completely pointless exercise that would only serve to further damage my already fragile self esteem. Before you go on the offensive over this comment, can I just ask, where does self esteem come from? Where does confidence come from? How do you gain confidence and self esteem to the point where you're comfortable approaching, talking to and asking out random women you've never seen before?

In other areas of life (professional mainly) I gained confidence in an action from experience and doing it repeatedly. It's fine to fuck up every once in a while and feel like an idiot for a moment, to make you consider your mistake and how to prevent it next time.

In the area of women, every single interaction I've had with one I might have been attracted to, since around the age of 12, has gone something like this
>ewww gross
>don't talk to me

How can one gain confidence and self esteem when faced with 100% failure rate for so long? If I was failing this hard at a job for this long, I would give up and move to a different industry. Think of inceldom like that, except there's no other industry to move to. And I aint gay nigga.
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Anonymous
6/21/2025, 3:32:31 PM No.33253968
>>33253816
>For me [asking a girl out] feels like a completely pointless exercise that would only serve to further damage my already fragile self esteem
Ok great, but you can't expect to get any women then.
>where does self esteem come from?
I think if you look very hard, you'll find the answer to that within the question.
>every single interaction I've had with one I might have been attracted to, since around the age of 12, has gone something like this
And what's your takeaway from that? Do you not see how you might be doing something wrong and make adjustments after a while?
To use your work analogy, yes, everyone does fuck up sometimes. But if you had an employee with a literally 100% failure rate (as you claim to have with women), after a while you'd probably fire his ass.
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Anonymous
6/21/2025, 5:06:00 PM No.33254371
>>33253812
>No girl will fall onto your lap unless you actually do something
This is only true if you're average to unattractive, if you're somewhat attractive there will be at least one girl who will take an interest in you, which means she will want to get to know you
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Anonymous
6/21/2025, 5:51:16 PM No.33254517
>>33254371
this happened to me and i still fumbled it lol 33 y/o virgin
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Anonymous
6/21/2025, 10:21:05 PM No.33255560
>>33254517
how did you fuck it up?
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Anonymous
6/22/2025, 12:25:01 AM No.33255963
>>33248613 (OP)
How the fuck are you 38 and still give a fuck about muh virginity.
t virgin
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Anonymous
6/22/2025, 1:20:17 AM No.33256156
>>33253968
>Ok great, but you can't expect to get any women then
That's right, I don't
> Do you not see how you might be doing something wrong...
Well, yeah, but if I can't "just bee urslef" then I can't be bothered masking up to chase them. Not worth the effort at this point.
> after a while you'd probably fire his ass.
You are correct, consider me fired.
Anonymous
6/22/2025, 2:27:35 AM No.33256459
>>33248613 (OP)
https://youtu.be/ICHPKx6KJSM?si=p9As_t_oOHO-9eM-
Anonymous
6/22/2025, 2:49:57 AM No.33256542
>>33255963
Sexual desire doesn’t just go away anon
And honestly it’s hard not too, I’m the only single virgin in my circle
Anonymous
6/22/2025, 3:32:26 AM No.33256699
>>33253654
>Girls can ask guys out too. Its rare but possible.

They do their part, but differently. They will hover around you , make themnselves available,shoot you looks and start beaming and carrying the conversation when you finally open your mouth saying the most retarded shit possible and giggling at your dumb jokes. But they won't directly ask you, thats extremely rare even for my chad friends.

>like a completely pointless exercise that would only serve to further damage my already fragile self esteem.
thats what I thought too for far too long. In reality what happens is that it strengethens your self esteem and demystifies the whole process regardless of whether its successful or not. Even if you get rejected, you find out it doesn't matter much. But it feels good to be true to yourself and pursue what you want instead of listening to fear. And that btw, is how you build self esteem.

I make an exception if all you experience is rejection even after so many tries, in which case you are either doing something fundamentally wrong or looking in the wrong places.
Anonymous
6/22/2025, 5:48:09 AM No.33257166
>>33255560
Nta but I just didn't respond to any of her advances and kinda avoided her until she lost interest. And not just one time, but with every such girl throughout my life.