I'm bisexual and I'm in a relationship with another woman right now. My parents hate it, they keep trying to tell me about eligible guys back home. They act like it's a phase so they don't respect my relationship at all.

My girlfriend is also really worked up over it, because she's insecure about my being bisexual since her last partner was bisexual and left her for a man.

I want to get my parents to play nice with my girlfriend. I've made reservations at a nice restaurant, I was planning to invite them out and hoped the location might encourage everyone to be civil enough that breaking the ice will have them being nice to each other. Is this wishful thinking or am I on the right track?

You should tell your parents that it doesn't matter if this is a phase or not, you're going to take this relationship seriously because you're not that kind of hoe that plays around despite your parents trying to raise you that way.

>>33251646 (OP)
Im going to be real with you, OP. Bisexual people get a bad reputation for being hypersexual and never committing. Even then, I have to warn you lesbian relationships don't work out all that well due to having the highest rate of DV among all couples, and not being the "prize" in the relationship

>>33251646 (OP)
>I'm bisexual and I'm in a relationship with another woman right now.
What is with this board lately? Its literally a ton of reddit foid shit

>>33251646 (OP)
>I want to control other people's feelings
Good luck with that

>>33251821
>I have to warn you lesbian relationships don't work out all that well due to having the highest rate of DV among all couples
I thought this was referring just to lesbians having experienced domestic violence at ANY point in their lives? I wouldn't be surprised if they still have high rates of it, considering how abuse messes with people's psyche, but I think those are women who "became" lesbians out of trauma.

>>33251905
Oh no, Lesbians are infamous for beating on each other. They also have the highest rate of divorce among all couples. Interestingly enough, Gay men have the lowest divorce and DV rate compared to both Heterosexual and Lesbian couples.

I'm not trying to make a statement, but it seems like women don't treat their partners very well whatever gender they are. That's why I'm warning OP what they might be facing if they stick with this girl.

>>33251685
Thank you. This is the perfect wording for a point I've been trying to make to them since I came out as bi.
>>33251821
I know about the biphobia a lot of people have, it's a pain to try to work around it but I mean...I'm definitely attracted to both men and women, I'd be kidding myself if I tried to pretend I was only interested in one gender.
>>33251837
Idk, I use Tumblr more than anything.
>>33251895
I have an outcome I'm hoping for, a civil meal for everyone to get to know each other. If you have a better idea for it I'd appreciate any tips.

>>33251646 (OP)
you need a guy for a throuple
your parents want grandkids

>>33252844
My relationships are for my own fulfillment not for my parents to have their breeder lineage secured

>>33251646 (OP)
You should get engaged. That will calm your girlfriend down and force your parents to take things seriously.

>>33251646 (OP)
>My parents hate it,
>They act like it's a phase
They hate it because when they conceived you, and watched your birth, and raised you as a little girl, they never imagined you'd date a BPD bull-dyke lesbian when you become grown up.

>My girlfriend is also really worked up over it, because she's insecure
And she will lash out at you. Another statistic added to the % of lesbian relationships that contain abuse.

>encourage everyone to be civil enough that breaking the ice will have them being nice to each other. Is this wishful thinking or am I on the right track?

It's not going to work. Your parents envisioned and hoped you'd follow their example and the example of any stable nuclear family: progeny. That means having kids, your own biological ones with a male, so that you can become a real mother and make your parents into grandparents.

No amount of appeasement is going to erase that fact from their minds. The relationship with this lesbian is a genetic dead end. You know it, your GF knows it (hence why she is insecure), your mom knows it and your dad knows it.

You know it but presumably you don't care, no doubt because you're drunk with youth. I'm guessing under the age of 25. You probably don't give a thought to the next five years, and you don't have any long term visions for your own life. You follow the whims of what you think is 'love' (most likely not love, just infatuation) and you blindly let life happen to you. Like blindly letting yourself date an emotionally volatile lesbian without seeing any signs of it beforehand or from the first 10 mins of meeting her.

Don't bother having them meet, it'll only make what's gonna happen harder. What's gonna happen is you'll get sucked into her dysfunction and you'll become complicated mentally from the damage. You'll learn the hard way.

Just don't burn bridges with your parents. You're gonna need them after your fall.

>>33253747
Well I feel bitter that it matters so much to them that I have a baby that they expect it from me even if it's not what I want out of life. I never asked to be born, shouldn't I have the freedom to live how I want without judgement from the people who brought me here in the first place?
>And she will lash out at you. Another statistic added to the % of lesbian relationships that contain abuse.
I feel like that statistic isn't honest, or that there's something misleading at play. My lesbian friends have some of the healthiest and most loving relationships I've ever seen, and my gf and I are both really happy aside from the troubles from my parents. The worst we have is that she's insecure about my parents bothering me to break things off with her, and that's a reasonable thing to worry about.
If I'm going to have a relationship with my parents I need them to respect my decisions enough to be civil with my partner even if they aren't comfortable with the decisions themselves. I'm an adult, they need to treat me like one.

>>33255086
>Well I feel bitter that it matters so much to them that I have a baby that they expect it from me even if it's not what I want out of life. I never asked to be born, shouldn't I have the freedom to live how I want without judgement from the people who brought me here in the first place?

Just be blunt with yourself. You don't see the beauty in having a family of your own because you had a shit time with your parents. You regard the act of two parents loving one another enough to start a family as 'breeders' as if they were akin to something parasitical or animalistic.

You even say shit like 'I never asked to be born'. Which tells me you don't even count your own life as something to be grateful for.

You don't really like yourself.

And I'm gonna guess you felt your parents never liked you either. Which is why you are bitter and ironically also why you don't like yourself. They raised you, they were the ones who unwittingly nurtured self hate into you.

>my gf and I are both really happy aside from the troubles from my parents
So your GFs problems she causes you is not her fault, but your parents fault. Alright. Well don't be surprised whenever you catch yourself in the pattern of being a victim. Your GF will cause shit, but you'll either blame yourself or blame whatever your GF tells you to blame (she will never be to blame, she'll make sure you believe that).

I think you're going to find this lesbian chick will have things in common with your parents - both of them will control you, and you'll allow it. Your problems go a far bit deeper than just this shit you got with making your parents like your GF. You'll find that out later.

>>33255328
>t. landwhale tranny (single) who wanted to be a lesbian

>>33251837
Lol, incel

>>33255455
Lol