So let me get this straight:

A guy can decline an invitation by saying his girlfriend won't let him go, and everyone just laughs it off "happy wife, happy life," right?

But if a girl says her husband/boyfriend won't let her go, suddenly it's "red flag," "toxic," or "is she safe?"

Because Im expected to cancel every night out with my friends, skip every drink, and basically live like a caged bird, because she's insecure, constantly assuming I'll cheat the moment I'm out of her sight. When I just want to hang out with my pals and play Yu-Gi-Oh and drink beers after a LONG stressing shift at work.

But the one time I ask her to stay in, just once, maybe to spend time together or because I’m uncomfortable with the crowd (divorced, bitter whores) she's going out with lately. Suddenly I AM controlling, abusive, insecure, in the relationship.

So let me ask you, when did "respecting boundaries" become a one way street for women?

no this is not normal do not accept it as such

>>33252010 (OP)
I won't read chin-scratching, "wondering," women-resenting threads about no-one in particular, on an advice board, posted by a perpetually-online, subhuman moron with nothing better to do, Go outside.

>>33252010 (OP)
Go out with your friends anyway and video call her from time to time as a proof that you're not cheating. If she's still bitching, try to invite your friends over your house and have a wholesome Yugioh gaming night for example each time she wouldn't allow. This will be a great lesson to her. If it's still not working, she really has some deeper issues that needs to be further analyzed with a psychologist. I hope this helps anon.

>>33252010 (OP)
Stop being a pathetic, whiny little bitch, and break up with her.

>>33252010 (OP)
Oh my god this board feels like an edgier version of reddit
Just go see your friends and do your adult redditor shit anyways, your woman doesn't own you, nor should she even be anywhere close to that position.
And if she starts being a cunt over you having free will then use a tried and true method called "punching her fucking lights out so she learns her place and fixes her tone"
She doesn't respect you because you let her treat you like this you absolute moron.

>>33252010 (OP)
Okay but just pointing out the fact that there's two different sexes isn't gonna solve your problem. You're in a consensual relationship. Either you stand up for yourself or you don't.

>>33252010 (OP)
It depends on your set of friends and her set of friends. The boomer response CAN be "happy wife, happy life", or they talk about how much they hate them etc.
You guys have a different issue at baseline here. It's not about hanging out, or really other peopls' opinions about it. It's that she's insecure for some reason, the opinions of other people are being allowed to matter, and that you want to have the same time away from friends that she's allowed to have. You have to get to the reason behind her insecurity before you can start moving around to the rest of it. You might need a marriage counselor, unironically, to have an outsider opinion.

>>33252265
If a guy couldn't get away from his wife I'd just stop taking to him. Her manipulation would be successful. Sames goes for a woman and her husband, if we can dispose of this war of the sexes bullshit.

>>33252268
It's not supposed to be a war, that's the thing. This is stupid and it's all stemming from her feeling insecure about him straying. So he needs to figure out why and nip that in the ass so that they don't have to deal with this and can have space for themselves without repercussions for either of them.

I won’t say, “if you’re unhappy, leave,” but I will say, “if you’re unhappy and unwilling or unable to have a productive conversation about it, leave.”

>>33252010 (OP)
Not that I would but
if my gf wanted to go out and I didn't want her to I could easily just overpower her and lock her in or lift her and smack her on the ground and then close the doors, you know
I even dated girls taller than me and I was always noticeably stronger than them.
meanwhile if my gf doesn't want me to go out she can cry and scream all she wants I'm still going out and she wouldn't dare touch my stuff as a vengeance because she'll know my rage
in theory.
I've never put a hand on a gf but if it comes to that a man can just impose his will with strenght whereas a woman can't.

>>33252010 (OP)
Do you feel in your gut like she's cheating on you? Be honest with yourself.

>>33252314
>"You can always kidnap her... not that I'd ever do that or recommend doing it, but you totally could"

>>33252616
yeah you get it
that's why many girls would stupidly prefer a bear over a man
they think they can hide from the bear and he'd quit
a man, well there are the good guys but you can never tell, I've seen friends who I thought were saints hit their gfs.

>>33252010 (OP)
>A guy can decline an invitation by saying his girlfriend won't let him go, and everyone just laughs it off "happy wife, happy life," right?
>But if a girl says her husband/boyfriend won't let her go, suddenly it's "red flag," "toxic," or "is she safe?"
Correct. Because if you don't do what your girlfriend wants, she will not beat you up; and if you decide to leave her, she won't murder you. Both of those possibilities would be highly likely in the case of a woman involved with an abusive man. You are staying with her because you are *choosing* to stay with her, not because you are too frightened to leave.

>>33252010 (OP)
You fucking goy she's already cheating on you.