How do I tell this chick that I was stupid and actually I do still have feelings? Not exactly casual conversation.

>>33252290 (OP)
You just tell her and respect her autonomy to make decisions with that information.

>>33252297
but how

>>33252468
Do you have issues with being forthcoming? You can probably tell me how you feel about her without too much problem. When we keep the truth from someone we deprive them of the ability to behave in a genuinely informed manner, protecting ourselves and in sometimes the other person. Being honest always comes with some risks, so you just have to be willing to accept the risks or not be fully honest.

>>33252483
I don’t know if I can give what she needs. Not sure I know what to do after I tell her. Worried it will ruin our friendship? Better to keep quiet?

>>33252483
> do you have issues with being forthcoming?
Boy do I

>>33252524
Telling her will benefit you both, especially if she likes you and is waiting for you, it's kind of mean of you not to say something. embrace your autism, tell her you like her directly and she what she does, don't think too much. that being said, I had a similar situation recently with a girl at work, who was giving me lots of signals, but I kind of insulted her by accident by saying something under my breath because she was annoying me with lots of mixed signals and getting other people involved who I didn't even know who were making comments as I walked past ect and one day I had just had enough, I went up to her and just said look, I like you alot have you got a BF? but she said she likes me too but she has a long term BF. So basically, I cleared the situation up in my head, took all the pressure off myself and felt much better, even though it didn't work, I still think she's lying and just mad at me for taking so long to make a move, but i'm not going down that path, she knows for sure I like her now so it's her turn to ask me. The main thing is I tried and learned a valuable lesson - next time a girl shows interest, I will ask her instantly if she has a BF. Much better to get it out of the way than have this uncertainty drag on for months. Anon, it get's harder with time, but making a move is your best option, you literally can't fuck it up even if you sperg out, even if you tremble and she still says no, she will respect you more for trying and you will also respect yourself. The only way to lose is doing nothing.

>>33254453
I have confessed before. I took it back. Didn’t know myself. Now I regret it. So it’s telling her again that’s hard.

>>33255050
well either you tell her and get another chance at her or stay quiet and never get her again

>>33255257
Yes I agree. I don’t know how to begin the conversation? We speak often, but it is tenuous friendship sometimes.

Dude your constant waffling and not giving her a chance to make an informed decision is really selfish and cruel. Just be honest for fuck's sake instead of a coward.

>>33257047
If your relationship is platonic now you have the option for both of you to move on. I think you really only had an obligation to tell her if you were fucking. But you do have an obligation to be honest with yourself. Shit or get off the pot.

>>33257094
Like, “hello! How is your brother? Also I still love you?”?