Is it important to have “lived a life” before being in a long term relationship with plans of marriage? I’m jealous of some of the women in my life that have gotten to move to a different city after college and figure things out for themselves before they settled with the men they’d marry. I never got to experience that. I stayed at home for college, which is where I met my boyfriend, and we graduated 2 years ago. We’ve been together for 4 years and I love him and he’s seriously the greatest thing that has ever happened for me, the only problem is that when I expressed I want to move without him or my sister following me, he seemed a little mad. I then explained the reasons to him but he still seemed off. Idk, I’ve had a lot on my plate and I just want to escape. I feel like I’m wasting my life

>>33252310 (OP)
For some peple. Others find someone that they love and realize they want to share that experience with them, to live with them in another place and enjoy the things that place offers. If you're willing to throw away your relationship to go find yourself, then you weren't with someone you wanted to do that with.

>>33252310 (OP)
I mean, how much do you like your boyfriend?
The whole part where you "find yourself" (be young, pretty, and single in a big city): that is fun, but that's only like 3 or 7 years of a woman's life.
Boyfriend, marriage, paired-up life, kids, after kids, etc, that's like 60 years of your life.

So what I'd suggest is prioritize what's going to give you the best possible life for the 60 years part, not the best for the 5 year part.

If you want to leave your boyfriend, you might not find a good one later after you're done with the partying phase. Then it will suuuuuuuck for 60 more years. Locking down a good guy is worth sacrificing a few years of fun, in my opinion. But maybe other people will have other opinions.

If you want to just live apart from your boyfriend for a while and do an LDR, it will probably damage the relationship, but maybe you can convince your bf to do that.

Yeah. Ideally you should fuck 2 to 3 hundred guys before getting into a long term relationship at age 20.

>>33252334
It’s not that I don’t want to live with him, there’s an incentive to do so considering he has a really good job and he’s cute
>>33252351
I don’t want to leave him, I just want to do long distance. The only problem I can see him having is he’ll miss the physical intimacy

>>33252364
>The only problem I can see him having is he’ll miss the physical intimacy
Girl, he is gonna think you're bored with him. Cause it sounds like you're bored with him.
It's not just physical intimacy that you miss with an LDR, it's also the feeling that your partner actually wants to be close to you and live with you.

>>33252310 (OP)
You have to do what you feel is right, but of course he's going to be mad if you say you want to abandon him, fucktard.

>>33252373
>he is gonna think you're bored with him
How? I told him that I’m going because I want to leave my comfort zone for a year before responsibilities start accumulating, I’m almost 25. He knows that I love my family a ton and that my sister is my best friend and that I’d be leaving all of them too

>>33252389
Because he's probably thinking about the long run, thinking about being with you forever, maybe marrying you, maybe planning a life together in a new city, maybe buying a house with you, maybe having kids with you...

...and you're basically telling him that you're not thinking about any of that, but moving away without him and having fun by yourself instead.
It's kind of taking a knife and stabbing his dreams, if he really loves you.

>>33252396
I told him that all of that stuff is still going to happen, we’ve talked about getting married in the future. I’m struggling to see how he can possibly extrapolate me moving away temporarily to me dumping him and setting fire to any plans that we’ve made