How the fuck can I just forget about a woman? I rarely have contact with any am pretty confident I haven't met a single one outside of work in a decade, but a girl I fell for when I was a teenager still haunts my dreams. I don't think about her, we were not in relationship(we were in a friends group and about all our romantic interactions boiled down to was me asking her out, she agreeing and then texting we shouldn't spend time together 3 hours later), I have no idea what happens to her now that we're double the age we were back then, and I don't want to know. However I sometimes dream about her and it's like a nightmare but instead of scary it's depressing. I then feel down the entire day. Today I wake up in sweat, feel down and as the fog clears I remember another dream with her. What's worse it's happening more frequently.
The moment I've recognised the social life is not gonna work out for me I've tried to adapt to it to at least make loneliness bearable but now this is making me want to die.

She’s not *her* anymore. You’re haunted by a ghost of who she was, not who she is. Your brain latched onto her as some symbol of connection or missed chance, not because of who she really is now. It’s grief, not love.

Dreams dredge up unresolved shit. You don’t need to “forget” her, just accept that she’s part of your story but not the ending. If real life connection feels impossible, start *small*. Just talk to people. Even if it doesn’t lead to friendship, it chips away at the isolation.

And seriously, if you’re thinking about dying because of this, that’s a sign to talk to someone therapist, hotline, whoever. You're not weak for hurting. You’re just tired and lonely, and that’s fixable.

>>33252651
I know all that, I just want to stop these dreams

>>33252661
Then you need to stop feeding the ghost, even subconsciously. No more looking her up, no more replaying what-ifs. Before bed, do something to ground yourself in the present. Tiring routine, journaling, cold shower, white noise. Anything that breaks the cycle.

Dreams reflect your emotional state. If your days are filled with isolation and regret, your nights will keep throwing her at you. Fill your head with something new. Learn something. Watch something engaging. Talk to people even if it's just small talk.

You won’t erase the dreams instantly, but you can make them fade over time.

This thread is same fag manipulative narrative shaping. Narcissist behavior. In my opinion don't take the advice of people like this.

>>33252646 (OP)
Just get a life, problem solved. To do that you can:
1. Go outside, both from inside your room and from inside your head.
2. Make a long-term plan.

>>33252759
>1. Go outside, both from inside your room
Honestly it's unrelated to the topic but what exactly does this mean
>Go outside bro
>Just go outside
>Touch grass
Ok
>Go outside
>Nothing happens
Is this "just be yourself" in a different form?