Sometimes during interactions and arguments, i really want to do the wrong thing and have my way, winning by using the most, manipulative language possible.
>So now you're against me? I thought I could trust you...
>Why are you making this so hard on yourself, if you just let me figure it out, it would be so much easier.
>is that how much it takes? You can't handle a single argument, what you a child?
>It's harder to find things to do with you, if you can't just do the things I ask you to do
>This is on you, you know, you can't fuckin adapt when I have trouble being there on time.
You see how it's asking a leading question?, and wants answer that's obvious, how am I supposed, not say those things and reword them into something more constructive?

The urge comes from wanting control and validation more than resolution. Those lines aren't just manipulative, they're defense mechanisms. You feel cornered or frustrated, so you default to winning instead of connecting.

The fix is awareness in the moment. When you feel that urge to twist the knife, pause. Literally stop talking. Breathe. Ask yourself, "Do I want to be right or do I want this to work?" You can reframe that same emotion into honesty without weaponizing it.

Instead of "You can't handle a single argument" say "I'm frustrated and I don't know how to say it without being harsh."

Instead of "So now you're against me?" try "It feels like we're not on the same side, and that sucks."

It’s not about being perfect, just being real. If you can admit the feeling without dressing it up as an attack, it changes the whole tone. Takes practice, but it's worth it.

>>33252670 (OP)
you never win that way though. you can make people do it but they'll hate you literally the moment they can get free.

an argument is like convincing a feral cat to get petted and not a gladiator fight. you can only win with carrots not sticks. a fundamental defining feature of discourse has always been pathos

>>33252670 (OP)
Learn the common logical fallacies. Then exclude them from your discussion by default. Of course, if you really hate someone then you might use them as weapons. But at least it's up to you rather than doing it inadvertently.

>>33252670 (OP)
bump